really embarrassing sex questions

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Registered: 08-11-2003
really embarrassing sex questions
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Wed, 11-19-2003 - 2:45pm
Ok, I am really embarrassed to be asking these questions but I figure, who better to ask than a bunch of stangers? :-)

I am on the verge of turning my emotional A into a sexual one. My problem is that I have never had sex with anyone else other than H. We've been together for 13 years (highschool sweethearts). So I am realllyyyy nervous about this guy seeing me naked. I mean I have two kids so the tummy isn't looking that good. Will he really care? He says he won't but yuck... I look good otherwise, I am super fit, pretty darn cute and everything, it is just that tummy that is horrible. (stretch marks and such)

Is it going to be crazy good when a new guy goes down? Is his penis **blush blush** going to "taste" different? Oh my, I am soooo curious!

Also will it be totally different? I sure hope so cause that is what I am going for. If it is the same I will kinda be dissappointed that I risked everything for the samething.

Oh I am soooo nervous, yet excited beyond words! I don't even care if we do it once and then never again, feels like I just need to get this out of my system and have something of my own!

All thoughts would be appreciated please!

Happy

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Registered: 10-06-2003
Wed, 11-19-2003 - 3:00pm
I wish I had been able to ask those same questions 3 years ago. My H was also the only man I had ever been with, and like you the kids had left a "road map" on my tummy. MM was wonderful, and letting me be shy and keeping things under the covers. By the time the shirt came off I didnt care,the passion was flowing by then.

I also found that he was having alot of the same worries. He is in really good shape, but he has small frame.

As for the Penis, MM is totally different, size, taste, the way it makes me feel LOL.

Nothing with MM is even close to the same as it is with H.

I know that my MM loves me, he loved me from the start so he was very considerate of my feelings.

Relax, Relax, and Enjoy!!!

dayz
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Registered: 09-09-2003
Wed, 11-19-2003 - 3:01pm
Okay, I was sort of similar to you, although H #2 was my 2nd man (pathetic isn't it). So I was very nervous/excited with MM first time too. But we took it slow, just alot of kissing on the bed and then undressing and one thing leads to another ... anyways, long answer short, just enjoy yourself and I'm sure he will love your body. After all, he's probably not "perfect" either right? As long as you enjoy each other I'm sure it will be wonderful!! And yes, things do "taste" different, and whole experience will probably be a totally, different wonderful experience for you!! Best wishes.

Dusty
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 11-19-2003 - 3:04pm
WOW, that's amazing that you have only been with one man. Not a bad thing just amazing:) Ok, well you've come to the right place. First thing first! DO NOT WORRY ABOUT YOU'RE BODY! Trust me that was my biggest fear when I decided to embark on my EMA. My MM's wife has this amazing body (never had kids). Not me, I had 2 ten-pound boys, so YEAP the stretch marks along with the flab. Other than that I'm in great shape. Anyway, trust me REAL men don't think as much about this stuff as we do. Just enjoy each other’s company and take it nice a slow. OH and if it will make you feel better. Talk to him about it (maybe over the phone or via e-mail) Tell him about the insecurities that you have regarding your body. I bet, he says the same thing my MM said. Did NOT notice and don't care! He just couldn't wait to hold me in his arms and take me to ultimate delight:):)Yes, they all taste different! It’s OK to be nervous. I still don't remember driving to the hotel the first time we were together. Good luck and I hope you know you made me smile with you're post. Have fun and keep us posted! NMR
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Registered: 05-21-2003
Wed, 11-19-2003 - 3:06pm
I think everything depends on the guy. S*x with my MM is more unbelievable than I could have ever imagined. I've never experienced a connection like we have. Don't think I could have done it once and not gone back for more!
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Registered: 11-17-2003
Wed, 11-19-2003 - 3:23pm
Hppydz2come, I can *really, really* relate to your situation right now. (I don't have any kids, but my weight has been up & down, up & down, so I got the stretch marks thing happenin' too) H has been my one & only, and I'm nervous about the same things you are. One thing I *can* tell you about is yes, he will "taste" different. Everyone has a unique body chemistry, and even changes in diet can affect that in one person. You and I also taste different depending on the hormonal fluctuations in our cycles.

Also, sex is just sex. If all you're after is an orgasm, you can get a manual or battery-powered one. I'm not expecting things to be all that radically different... After all, it's pretty much the same equipment, just a size or shape variation here or there. As they say, "all cats are grey in the night". I guess what I'm saying is that the fulfillment that comes from having sex with your new man will probably stem from the excitement you feel in his presence, the electricity, the chemistry...

And as for being self-conscious, you attracted him, right? And you attracted your H. Even with my physical imperfections, I have never been at a loss for men being attracted to me, because I carry myself as if every man in the room wants me and I know it.

So get wit' your new man and *work it*, girl! :-)

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Registered: 05-21-2003
Wed, 11-19-2003 - 3:32pm
I too have only been with H since high school. I have 3 kids and all the marks. I dont even like to have the light on. But when MM and I did it for the first time it was during the day, bright light and all, nothing to hide, but he said I was beautiful and that is all that matter, especially after I thought I was disatrous. And when he called and wanted more my inabitions went out the window. Yes it is different, he was much bigger than H. I had to adjust but now who cares! Good luck to your.
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Registered: 08-11-2003
Wed, 11-19-2003 - 3:40pm
You guys all made me cry!!! Thank you so much for your support...it has however made me even more excited for tommorrow! I am just going to go for it and enjoy myself like I never have before!!

Thanks again guys, it is so nice to have support on such a "weird" subject.

Happy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-19-2003 - 4:23pm
hey your name is appropriate, because that's what you gonna do tomorrow COME!!!

hahahaha!!

anyway, to answer you and the ladies before me have done a marvelous job of it, PLEASE DO NOT WORRY ABOUT YOUR BODY! men have told me (and i've done a poll among my girlfriends, all of whom have had children and are NOT in the best shape!) that they love our bodies because WE are in them and no matter what the body looks like, the enjoyment is all there in the breasts, booty and between the legs!!

so not to worry honey. go for it, relax and have an uninhibited time with your man.

by the way, every penis tastes different, looks different and is used differently. no two are alike, just like snowflakes!!

experiment, go with the flow and do whatever feels good! have fun - that's the whole point!

lucky girl, you.

gurl

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Registered: 11-15-2003
Wed, 11-19-2003 - 4:58pm
Let me add something else..... this is something MM and I discovered quite by 'accident'. Body chemistry between people is very VERY different. We are very LUCKY in the respect that there is ZERO odor between us, so should we 'forget' to shower afterwards (like that would ever happen anyhow!!!) We can actually go home to our respective spouses and not worry, because we leave behind no smell when we are done. The other thing, I don't know if anyone else has ever noticed an 'itch' after s*x normally, but with MM, he and I neither one get that either! Its been great! I used to have to worry about that all day long at work after a night with H, now with MM, I don't get that at all!

HTH to answer other questions too

Tam

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Wed, 11-19-2003 - 5:11pm

Hi Happy,


I think the girls have already done a wonderful job of alleviating your fears... that are just like many of us.

Sweet
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