Is this really even an affair?
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Is this really even an affair?
| Mon, 10-12-2009 - 4:42pm |
You can see my other post to get a good overall view of my situation, but I thought when you had an affair with someone your AP would call you, text you, email you....mine does none of that. (He claims it's because his wife checks all that...texts, voicemail, etc) I call him and most of the time he calls me back but I make the first "call" usually. I told him he was a lousy AP...he told me he never wanted his first affair, let alone this one. Doesn't most people's AP show them some kind of attention?

So reading in between the lines, it sounds like you are having a hard time accepting that you are only a no strings attached, sex only partner?
I guess you want more even it means that the label is "affair partner" rather than a "f buddy" since it implies more of an emotional connection?
From how you described your situation, it sounds like your are trying to squeeze blood out of a rock.
Jilly,
No we both make contact. I am sorry it has to be this way, and would ask is this worth it? I know that's a hard question. .and I am right there sometimes.. and you have to decide that..
we are here to support you no matter what!!
M
Mr. Te....I understand what you're saying. I am a f*** buddy. I guess I just have to make a decision...is it really worth it? Am I willing to risk my marriage and kids for this? It's a hard decision to make because I do like him.
M...thanks for your support. If he called me to talk it would be nice. We do have nice conversations when we're alone, but he never calls to just "chat". I'm sure he thinks about me....but I'm sure it's just sexual thoughts.
Frankly jilly I am sure there are other guys who are willing and capable of giving you what you want besides him.