Is this really possible?

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Is this really possible?
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Sat, 10-11-2003 - 12:14pm
For those of you that don't know MM has told me from the get go he "loves" his wife and will NOT leave his M.

I've asked him why then he's involved with me and he says "because there is an attraction there that I couldn't deny" that attraction was/is still more than just physical.

This past week he took a vacation with his family - for a part of the vacation the children were left with family and MM and W headed off together. I asked him if it was fun - he said "yes" I asked him if it was romantic - he said "yes" - basically he still has a great deal of passion in his relationship with W. He tells me all this to be honest and not led me on. He is the kind that will LET me walk away because he knows this isn't fair to me! :(

Anyway - my point is - if he has all this with his w WHY then is he with me? What purpose do I serve? and WHY would he risk such a wonderful thing to be with me? Is he lying? Is he in denial? Is it possible that he can be "in love" with his wife after 8 years and STILL want something from me?

I can't deal with knowing the sex is as passionate with her - knowing he looks at her like he looks at me. It's one thing to know my MM loves his wife because she's his wife and because she's the mother of his children - it's another to know he's IN LOVE with her and still has a passionate romantic relationship!

Anyone have any thoughts? Thanks!

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Registered: 10-13-2003
Thu, 10-16-2003 - 10:06pm
Run don't walk...there are so many lives that will be torn apart and hearts broken from this. What makes you think he would not do the same to you someday? And what is even worse, he loves his wife and has passion and yet you are in his life? I understand that people are human and make mistakes and when there is no love, things can be tempting but he loves her and he's with you. He is pathetic! He is a loser and you deserve better. I feel sorry for his wife and kids...and yes you because you fell into his web. My advice, don't answer his calls, emails, avoid him and find love that is honest, loyal and beautiful. I know how hard it will be...but be strong and do what's best for you and if not for you think of his wife and the kids. You probably won't be the last or probably not his first. Get away from him and know there are wonderful and loyal men out there. He wants his cake and wants to eat it, too. Good luck, honey. Jenn
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Registered: 10-14-2003
Fri, 10-17-2003 - 12:13am

I don't quite have the time tonight to read through all the other posts here, so I'll tell you what I think...

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Registered: 08-14-2003
Fri, 10-17-2003 - 9:31am
Amen, sister!!!

 

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