Really upset and disgusted

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Registered: 06-01-2009
Really upset and disgusted
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Mon, 06-01-2009 - 10:51am

Hi Everyone,


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Registered: 11-12-2008
Mon, 06-01-2009 - 1:22pm

"Has anyone ever been through this before? " Read the posts by others here and you will see that you are not the only one.

"I feel like I need to end the affair and work on my marriage, but I don't know how." Marriage councelling is the way to go.

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Registered: 04-05-2007
Mon, 06-01-2009 - 7:03pm

You've been married for 5 years and can count on one hand the number of times you've had sex?? That would be 5 times, which is about once a year?? Are you exaggerating or is this a true number?

If it's a true number, then you need to explain to your H that sex is a lot more important to you than a once a year thing, and that the two of you need some counseling - sex therapy - probably both. I honestly don't see much hope for your M unless you do that. Have you ever talked about it? Does he explain why he has almost no sex drive? Could he be gay?

It seems that you really love your H, but you need to push and explore this issue, and see if what he can give you is enough for you. If it's not, maybe he would be open to an "open" marriage where you might be "allowed" to have other loves. The rules of your marriage are between you and him after all.

But you need the help of a therapist to sort it all out.

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Mon, 06-01-2009 - 8:17pm
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