For redeyes2004

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Registered: 01-19-2004
For redeyes2004
Tue, 02-24-2004 - 7:43am
I tend to think that its harder to get over a guy if you have feelings of being used. The reason is that then you can not forget or forgive and move on. When you don't feel anger, its easier to forget.

I tend to believe that no normal person is a complete evil (the type you see in moves....the complete villian). Instead, people have one good set of qualities and may have one set of bad. Its not always black and white. There are gray areas. The point that I am trying to make is that I do not think that the man did not love you. He definately did but at the same time, this person had deep emotional issues and did not have the strength to bear responsibility. He stays in a bad marriage, doesn't confront the abuse he faces at his wife's hands so how do you think he can confront her with the feelings that he may have for you.

Try to think that he loved you at one point in time (and maybe still does) but he has issues that you may not have wanted to keep up with. Say a prayer for him and you and move on.

PG