Relationship Comfort Zone?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2004
Relationship Comfort Zone?
3
Thu, 04-22-2004 - 8:48pm
I'm wondering if anyone else out there has fallen into a relationship comfort zonein thier EMA? I was just reading the post from yesterday about men vs. women and compartimentlizing. BTW - I feel the same way!! I wish I could keep it for what it is and not be so bound by when the next phone call is, the next time I see him, etc. MM and I speak to each other usuually everyday - sometimes more than that. We usually get together about once a week (although, recently - we haven't had the opportunity to "play" too much - but, we have seen each other) It's going on about a year - and lately, I've been feeling this sense of "comfort zone" in our R. Is this happening to anyone else? I can't figure out if it's good or bad? I do know that recently when he's said it's been family days or he's w/his W, I've felt a sense of jealously that I never felt before. Also, he was out the other day and told me about this "beautiful" women he met - I also felt some jealously when he told me this. He had every right to be with the family, out with friends etc - I just wish I could be a bigger part of his life.

What do you think this means?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-01-2004
Thu, 04-22-2004 - 10:39pm
I have always had a "comfort" zone with my MM - From day 1 he has made me feel

safe and that is an incredible feeling -

He and I have been able to talk and have connected uniquely since day one and

to this day ..this very second in fact It amazes me someone - with one word can put

a genuine smile on my face and make me feel like the most important person in this

world - when I know he doesn't have to do this.

Comfort for me is knowing I am there in his heart, and that I am the first person

he can't wait to share his day with - Comfort is hearing his voice and it calming me

down after a hard long day - Comfort is his touch after missing it for so long -

Comfort is many many wonderful things to me -

So to me it's definately good -

Kikki

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-31-2003
Fri, 04-23-2004 - 7:14am
Lucky you!! I can never get to the comfort zone since there is always somebody to mess it all up for me. It like nobody wants me to be happy. My MM like I posted yesterday is always guilty and scared of getting caught. It makes me very angry. I hope I can get there someday - tomorrow is another day!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-22-2004
Fri, 04-23-2004 - 8:19am
I know what you mean, I don't compartmentalize very well. I am always longing to hear his voice again, to feel his touch, to see his smile, to spend time with him. He is single and will be going out of town this weekend for a pleasure trip, he mentioned how his friend wants to go to a strip club and while I have no right to feel this way I was so jealous. Normally I don't let things like that get to me...afterall we're all human and we all look yet it bothered me. I told him that even though I had no right to feel that way that I was jealous, and he did make me feel better by saying that he wasn't going to lie to me and tell me hw won't be, he will be looking at them but still coming home to me. It's so hard to know what to think sometimes.

Love