RESULTS:Once a cheater,always a cheater

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Registered: 10-23-2003
RESULTS:Once a cheater,always a cheater
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Tue, 01-13-2004 - 1:13pm
Only 20% of us believe "Once a cheater, always a cheater"

Im a bit surprised myself...

comments?

cl-liberalgirl

callmeliberal@hotmail.com

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Tue, 01-13-2004 - 4:33pm
Hi liberalgirl, I'm surprised too. Didn't see the original poll, but I know my OMM has had at least 2 other A's. And last week, he told me he's had "between 25 and 30" sexual partners. My jaw dropped. Thank God for safe sex. I guess I looked shocked. But he looked me right in the eye and said, "Sugar, you asked, I told. You won't like everything I'll ever tell you, but I'll never lie to you."

He's great to me, and we have so much fun. I don't think I ever assumed I was the first, or that I'd be the last. He's a warm, wonderful guy who is truly nice and fun to be around. People like that are magnetic, they attract other people to them. He's still friendly and nice to the two other women he had A's with that I know about. When this is over, hopefully he'll treat me with ongoing respect and kindness. I think that's better than naively assuming I'll be the only OW forever...

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Registered: 10-13-2003
Tue, 01-13-2004 - 5:24pm
That is pretty surprising.
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Registered: 07-27-2003
Tue, 01-13-2004 - 10:34pm
Hmmmm

I’m only surprised that people are surprised!

Charlotte

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 01-14-2004 - 11:53am
hahaha, you crack me up charlotte. LOL
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Registered: 09-09-2003
Wed, 01-14-2004 - 12:28pm
Well this is my 1st A and began when I was almost going to leave my M. I purposely went looking for someone, I felt it was the end of my main relationship anyways. It was a last resort, kind of a crazy thing for me to do. But that was 3 years ago since it started. And if we stopped seeing each other, I would not be looking for another person. Because I think I was extremely lucky to find the MM I have, I don't think I would find another that I liked so much and found so sexy. And I basically don't trust most guys either. But if this A ended, I would have try hard to make H quit drinking and take up sex as an addiction instead.

Dusty
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 01-15-2004 - 12:20pm
speaking strictly for myself, i just won't use "never" and/or "always" in regard to life -- nothing stays the same for long. once a cheater doesn't mean you'll always be a cheater or an axe murderer either!! free will and choice exist, forever.

gurl

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Registered: 01-05-2004
Thu, 01-15-2004 - 12:39pm
OK....WHEN MY MM DIDNT GIVE ME ANY ATTN...

AT A COMP.. PARTY....

( TOO MANY EYES )

I WAS A LITTLE TIPSY SORT OF MADE OUT W/

AN EXECUTIVE....ON THE DOWN LOW...

FOR ABOUT A MINUTE !

DOES THAT COUNT??

...( LAUGHING MY ASS OFF!)

TOW

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Registered: 01-06-2004
Thu, 01-15-2004 - 4:03pm
I'd be curious how many of the "No" responses came from singles involved in an affair in which they hope to become the primary relationship for their BF/GF.

I know I couldn't love my BF if I didn't hold out some hope things might be different if he loved me enough. It might be impossibly naive, but if I didn't think there was any hope I could become his SO and he wouldn't cheat on me I'd have to distance myself and just enjoy ythe sex.