re:Urgent: man needs support
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| Wed, 12-03-2003 - 8:44am |
Thak you -- it is not that I do not listen to your advice -- I cherish it! I am in tears now, because I cannot get OW back. After her breaking it off 3 or 4 times and me trying to or breaking it off 2 or 3 times, she has made it clear it s over.
I've been calling all day to her pager, cell phone, and home, and she wont answer. I feel I can't live with myself because I could have been with her! But instead of syating with her each night I chose to go home to wife to keep from alienating her.
So, logic wold dictate that I cared for my wife all along and should go back with her. But OW is gone, not an option, and I fel FORED to go back with wife, even if that is really what I wanted to do -- does that make sense? The pain won't go away, I keep calling OW every hour, and that's pissig her off no doubt (she works as a medical professional). I just want a call from her for 5 minutes. Meantine, my wife is sick of hearing me talk about how sad I am.
It seems I don't have any choices left in life. I need help in getting through this. You say choose one or the other. Well, OW is done with it -- and I'm not even sure OW is best for me, but now thatshe;s not available I want her as much as ever (even though I agreed to break up twice with her!)

Edited 3/10/2004 4:53 pm ET ET by geek_chic
your W is indeed hurt by the EMA and the OW is hurt because she was jerked around for awhile. you couldn't make a decision so one was made FOR YOU.
we on this board are all in the exact same position. in the middle between two people we care about. but if my A were to be discovered, i would certainly lose both MM and BF. you still have your M and your W, but if that is not what you want, you should separate and live on your own and get your head on straight.
be sad, but be strong and move on now!
sorry you're going through this but know that you will heal with time.
gurl