Reveal to MM

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Reveal to MM
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Thu, 03-18-2004 - 8:10am
Hi,

I'm just curious as to how many of you have told your OM/OW about this message board, and do they participate in it at all. My MM is due back next week, and when I first found this support group, I thought I couldn't wait to tell him about it, but now I'm having second thoughts about that.

I'll look forward to your replies.

Thank you

Red


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Registered: 09-09-2003
In reply to: red_bella
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 8:20am
I wouldn't tell my MM about this message board. I think we need this place to ourselves to talk about our feelings and what's going on. If they started reading it and figured out who you were on it, well I don't know how I would feel about that.

Dusty
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Registered: 09-16-2003
In reply to: red_bella
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 8:29am
No way from me. But if he did his way on his own, that's fine by me too. Just can't vent often. :0)
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-10-2004
In reply to: red_bella
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 9:18am
I thought about it very briefly and came to the conclusion that it would not be a good thing to tell MM. We are FWB and that's how he wants to leave it. He doesn't even want to call this an A, so this may freak him out, especially if he can figure which posts are mine and find out I'm way too involved. Having an A can be so lonely. This board is so supportive, but can only help you so much...
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: red_bella
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 9:44am
Thank you for your insights. I don't usually hide any of my feelings from my MM anyway (we are very open with each other - especically about feelings), so he wouldn't be surprise by anything I posted, but I think that some confessions/stories from other people might scare him a bit.

Again, thank you

Red

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: red_bella
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 11:07am
I would never tell my MM about this board! This is My world and even he is not allowed in it:):)NMR
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-13-2003
In reply to: red_bella
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 11:12am

I would never tell MM about this board.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-29-2003
In reply to: red_bella
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 10:02pm
This is an interesting topic that I've wondered about myself. I have told my MM about this board, but haven't really told him that I've posted on it. I guess I wouldn't mind him posting on it himself since he too is involved in an EMA. I just find this board to be so helpful, it truly is therapeutic. My MM keeps his feelings bottled up inside and it concerns me that he has no one to talk to about it (other than me). I'm concerned about his emotional well being as besides being lovers, we are also great friends. I have thought about him looking up the posts on this board but I don't think he would figure out which one is me, haha. I've never told him my screen name here (which is different from my regular email address at home). I'd be curious what he would write if he were to 'chime in.' I wish more men would post, it's good to hear their perspectives. Virgogirl
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-24-2003
In reply to: red_bella
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 10:10pm

Hey Red...


nope! MM doesn't know... this is my little sanctuary... it's the place I come to when I'm trying to figure out my feelings for MM... and simply just to deal with our relationship... whether that's to cry about it... or to share my good times.

Sweet
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Registered: 06-29-2003
In reply to: red_bella
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 10:22pm
LOL...Sweetie, you have more than just a little board!! It's truly a wonderful haven for those of us in this situation, and I thank both you and Gurl for it. It has been a Godsend for me on days when my world felt as though it were caving in. So a big thanks and hug to you. Virgogirl
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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: red_bella
Fri, 03-19-2004 - 8:24am
Good morning,

Virgogirl - Yes, I think we have similar R's with our MM - we talk a lot to each other about our feelings. We are best friends, and as we have told each other, nobody else knows this sides of ourselves. I probably will tell him about this board, but I don't think he would ever participate - he is a very positive person who knows how to look within himself for answers (wish I could do that more often).

Anyway, I just wanted to thank you all so much for replying. It's been great to read and to make me realize that I'm not the only one.

Red