Roll call

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Registered: 03-30-2003
Roll call
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Mon, 11-17-2003 - 1:48pm
Thought I'd take roll to see who's who. Started coming here a year ago and just started visiting. Good to see there's a few of us old timer's hanging around. Maybe we can give a little background on our ema's. Here's mine:

MW w/ MM, now going on 1-1/2 yr, 2 yrs, depending on when you count it started.

We're FWBs, more friends than anything.

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Registered: 08-31-2003
In reply to: luvinmyfriend
Wed, 11-19-2003 - 9:18pm
very nice to meet you luv!

I am a MW seeing MM (my boss) for 12 yrs. now. We plan to leave our spouses as soon as his youngest is in college - in about 3-1/2 yrs.

My M is more of an arrangement. H and I work opposite shifts, rarely spend any time together. My MM and his W have pretty much the same thing going. Both M's were over way before the A started. Hell of a way to live most of your adult life but what keeps me going is knowing the best is yet to come! I could not picure my life without my MM.

hugs,

your cyber pal

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: luvinmyfriend
Thu, 11-20-2003 - 12:32am
Hi Luvin! It's been a long while since we've "seen" you - you didn't say how you are getting along? Well, I hope!

I joined the board about 14 months ago, and am seperated - D final in a few months. MM & I are FWB, and our affair began 15 - 18 months ago (hmmm, do I count the emotional leading up to the affair?). And, it's still gr-r-r-r-eat!

I'm not on the board constantly like I was...life has a way of interfering, lol. I miss the muses and old friends (come out, come out, where-ever you are). Glad you showed up!

Meow

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Registered: 11-15-2003
In reply to: luvinmyfriend
Thu, 11-20-2003 - 7:08am
just started coming here, been 6 months with MM. I found this because I needed someone to confide my feelings in and had no one I could talk to. been a member with ivillage for a couple years now, but am new to the whole ema as a steady thing. You will see more of me in the coming weeks. Great to meet you all!
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Registered: 11-21-2003
In reply to: luvinmyfriend
Sat, 11-22-2003 - 12:48am
I am new to this board and to ema. I have been with MM for 2 months, am still learning all of the ins and outs of this. Been with H for 17 years.

 Seeburg    

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Registered: 05-24-2003
In reply to: luvinmyfriend
Sat, 11-22-2003 - 1:56pm
Hi all!

Been in EMA for almost 3 years. He's M, so am I. We work together in different nearby cities (less than 1 hour apart). Sparks flew around for several years. It all came together on an out of town trip. Was great then and is awesome now. Deeply in love, but not leaving spouses. Been posting here on and off since before A began. Great board!

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Registered: 09-20-2003
In reply to: luvinmyfriend
Sat, 11-22-2003 - 9:48pm
I'm so glad I found this place about 4 months ago. I'm single and very much involved with MM. We've been friends for years and acknowledged how we felt for each other about 6 months ago. The physical aspect just started 2 months ago. Finding this board and reading all the messages from others going through many of the emotions I've been dealing with has kept me from being a complete spaz. I have no idea if MM will ever leave his W (he has been unhappily married for as long as I've known him, but has children involved), and I have no intention of pushing him because if he leaves, it must be for him and not because of his R with me.

Annika

Brightest Blessings, Annika


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Registered: 11-22-2003
In reply to: luvinmyfriend
Sat, 11-22-2003 - 10:39pm
OMG! I have found a forum with women in the same situation I am! What a relief! Found it strictly by accident, too.

OK, here's my story: I'm a (bear with me because I don't know all the correct abbreviations, or what some of them mean) MW he's a M(S)M, we have been in this relationship almost 4 years, but things have intesified in the last year, especially in the last 2 months. We meet every chance we get and he has admitted falling in love w/me, I already was w/him. I don't want to over step my bounds, none of the other posts were very long, so I don't know if that's frowned upon or not. Sex is great (can I say that?), in fact it just seems to get better. At first we didn't go that far, and then when we did, it was very infrequent, but now that he's moved out it's at least twice a week, mostly in our cars (we have a "secret spot"), but it doesn't feel sleezy to me in any way. Phone calls regularly, too. It seems like we may be heading for something more permanent and serious in the future, but it'll be a few years as we both need to get out of where we are now.

Anyway, hope this wsn't too long. BTW, what does FWB and FWOB mean? I can't figure them out! I am really glad to have found this place. No one else knows, and besides, who would understand?


Edited 11/28/2003 9:51:12 PM ET by ponydriver
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Registered: 11-19-2003
In reply to: luvinmyfriend
Sat, 11-22-2003 - 10:52pm
Hi, nice to meet everyone, I'm fairly new here, I posted and stopped by a few months ago and on occasion. I'm single 22 with separated man 43 with a kid who is still married. It's been almost a year now. It's good to have people like you folks on the board to talk about this, since I can't really talk to my girlfriends about this. They have serious normal/regular relationships and probably won't understand why I'm in this.

I hope to hang around this board for awhile and sort things out. Gosh, what a mess I'm in, it's so complicated and difficult at times.

Group hug, and good luck to everyone. May you find lots of joy in your lives.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: luvinmyfriend
Mon, 11-24-2003 - 1:23pm
hi pony -- below is the Welcome Old and New Members post that our leaders - sweet-c and liberal post for new members, like you.

"Myself and Liberalgirl would like to make a warm welcome to all the New Members.

Below are just a few things you may need to know.

Some abbreviations that may help:

MM - Married Man

SM/OM - Single Man/Other Man

MW - Married woman

SW/OW - Single Woman/Other Woman

DH/H – Husband

DW/W - Wife

DD - Dependent Daughter

DS - Dependent Son

SS - Step Son

SD - Step daughter

EMA - extra marital affair

LDEMA – long distance extra marital affair

A – affair

M – marriage

LOL - laughing out loud or lots of love

*s* - smiles

BTDT - been there done that

HTH - hope this helps

TY - thankyou

FWB - Friends with Benefits

FWOB - Friends without Benefits

D - divorce.

There may be a few others but these are the main ones... if at any time you don't understand something, please just ask and I’m sure there will be someone around to help out.

Also, please make note that this is a public board, so please, do not include any of your personal details. There are others out there that will be quite happy to use these details against you. As long as you keep details general, it is a safe place to post.

To all members... please remember that from time to time we get outsiders that may not see eye to eye with what this board supports, I ask you to please not respond and move on. Posts can be reported by clicking on the 'Report a violation' link on the right hand side of a post, but remember that if the post does not violate TOS then it will remain, even if sarcastic. Also note that by responding... you, yourself may be violating TOS and could lose your membership. Remember too... that you can ignore... when viewing a post look on the left hand side of the screen for an 'Ignore Posts' link.

This board... is what we make of it... and it can be a great place to vent, cry, laugh and make friends...

If at any time you don't feel comfortable posting on the board... you are more than welcome to email me at any time you need... due to my own family life and commitments, along with time differences... I may not always respond immediately... but I will always respond. My email is... sweetc_@hotmail.com (careful of the underscore) or just click on the 'Email link' in my profile.


welcome!!

gurl

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Registered: 11-22-2003
In reply to: luvinmyfriend
Tue, 11-25-2003 - 9:32pm
Thanks, gurlfriend! I've only posted on soap opera boards before, I had no idea something like this even existed! I was thrilled to find it, but then, as I read through some of the threads, I saw some extremely negative posts, which scared me and made me think twice about posting here, but I decided to come back again just to see, and I'll try to focus on the positive. I know that having an A isn't something you broadcast, but I never knew there would be so many other women just like me out there! Thanks for the words of wisom, I promise I will be very careful with what I say. My MM is getting his S papers in a month, then it'll be my turn. I think this will definitely end up being the real deal in about 2-3 years time. At least I hope so!

Hugs, and thanks again!

Pony