Mostly a lurker for years here, but i would like to know who is stil around.
I have been here since 2007, although when they did the switch over...I basically stopped posting. It just became way too frustrating and difficult! I do miss it though. I will never forget the comfort I got from being able to talk about my A with others who were going through the same thing, and it's a real shame that Ivillage ruined it.
I have been with my MM for seven years now, a long time...I know. I love him madly, and actually love him more as time goes on. Is he still married? Yes. Does it still bother me? Yes. Do I get all his time regardless? Yes. He has been away working again...nothing close enough for me to go visit on a regular basis, but I did visit at Christmas...spent the whole vacation at his brother's place with him. It was pretty great. I haven't seen him since then, although he does phone me almost every night He will be back for a wee break in a few days, and he's asked me not to tell anyone he's coming home, so that we can have a few days together exclusively. Hmmm, he doesn't want to go home and see the W...what a surprise. That is the one thing that still drives me wild. Why he's still with her. They lead COMPLETELY separate lives. They don't even like each other. Is a house really worth living that kind of life? Well to him, it does. I don't get it. Does it bother me enough to let him go? Not really. I actually kind of enjoy when he goes home after spending a lot of time together...I don't constantly have a man underfoot! Which means that I can get things done.
The one thing I've noticed after being in this relationship for so long...is that the "rollercoaster" aspect of the whole thing has been completely absent for at least a few years...and what a blessed relief that is!
My ex-h is a TOTAL jerkwad, and a person that I really don't like ~ or respect. Just not a nice person at all, and I'm thankful that he's out of my life. Luckily for me, I get to see him all the time (NOT) and I get to witness just what a pos he really is.
That is my update...I wish everybody luck and happiness. It's not an easy road.
Hi Benska, i too am SO glad to hear from you and see a *familiar face* posting! Im happy to hear that your relationship with AP is now navigating in smooth-er waters, though it must be very hard to not have seen him for 3 months?? How do you cope?? How is life in general, how is your work life if i may ask?? You know i could never really understand your *being with someone elses husband*, and i still cant, but i genuinely wish you all the happiness in the world and all the very best (you sure do deserve it after all the hardships you had to fight through) and i do hope to see you posting here again much more often.
All the best
Hi Rocklady! It is very nice to see some familiar faces here.
You know, it hasn't been that difficult while he's been away. We stay in constant contact...in some ways, more so than when he's here :) Life is very good right now...I've been blessed with a second granddaughter, who is as cute as her sister...and has already taken her first steps (just over 8 months old). I can only smile as it appears the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Work is fine, a bit of a dead end job...but it supports me fairly well, so I can't complain.
We love who we love, but I would never have had a relationship with him if he didn't have such a "non-existant" relationship with his wife. That is something that existed LONG before I ever came into the picture, and I don't see anything changing for him should we ever decide to part ways. You really would have to see it to believe it, I guess. I was just telling a friend the other day that I never do the "I wish we'd met years ago" thing because I knew him years ago, To be honest, I wasn't sure I liked him very much...and along with me...EVERYBODY thought that his relationship with his wife was very odd, to say the least.
I actually check back here fairly often, and when I saw the roll call post...I just had to chime in.
Take care Rocklady!