Roll call on SW

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Registered: 07-09-2008
Roll call on SW
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Sun, 04-12-2009 - 9:24pm

Just wanting to get a feel for how many single women involved with a MM are in the house?

Being single vs being married puts the affair in a different perspective, and just want to chat with other SW who know what I'm going through as well.

Feel free to e-mail on here too. =)

 

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Registered: 03-08-2009
Sun, 04-12-2009 - 9:54pm

Hi Lost!


I am a SW seeing a MM.

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Registered: 02-05-2009
Sun, 04-12-2009 - 10:13pm

Hi lost, I am a SW who was involved with a MM for over 3 years.

trixie

Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it is about learning to
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Registered: 12-30-2008
Sun, 04-12-2009 - 10:35pm
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Edited 10/8/2009 8:17 pm ET by goblinqueen79
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Registered: 03-07-2009
Sun, 04-12-2009 - 10:36pm

Lost,


I'm also a SW involved with a MM.

maystone
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Registered: 01-12-2009
Mon, 04-13-2009 - 8:07pm

Hi there,


I too am the SW! I agree with the nights and weekend thing. I have hear from my

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Registered: 07-09-2008
Mon, 04-13-2009 - 10:34pm

Hi ya'll!!

Thanks for sharing! It's nice to see other women in the same boat. Yes, nights and weekends are tough. Although in the past, I used to be able to see my MM at night because he usually worked nights and when he didn't, he'd tell his wife he had to work so he can sneak out with me.

I just find it soooooo tough being single because I WANT a relationship with a man. I crave that stability and companionship. I want to take it to the next level. I want someone to do "couple's" activities with; to be there at night to hold me, etc...

It sucks when I think that he's at home and has a family. That I am sharing him, but he's got me to himself.

Arghhh and my jealousy sometimes gets the best of me. When I see him hiding to go in another room to talk on the phone to her; although he says its his "daughter", I know better.

What irritates me is the LIES he tells me.

We've been together for a YEAR and he continues to say he's not married, that he's just living with her as roommates! But then he'll make excuses why he can't hang out with me, or spend the night, or have me over. I haven't met his daughter or his parents.

ARgh he lies so much! its not him being married that bothers me its the lies.

And the loneliness of it all!

I cry every single day... I have these headaches, and now my chest feels heavy from all this stress.... it sucks to see him occasionally only on his terms when he can get out. And I know they're having sex but he says they're not! URGHHHHHHH

I love him deeply and care for him and want a REAL RELATIONSHIP but he says we have one but yet he keeps me at a distance.

=(

 

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Registered: 03-07-2009
Mon, 04-13-2009 - 10:54pm

Lost,


My chest is starting to hurt just reading your post... I'm so sorry to hear about the pain and agony you are feeling.

maystone
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Registered: 07-09-2008
Mon, 04-13-2009 - 11:01pm

Hi May,

Thank you so much for your input. I definitely needed it.

I have been on this board since the very beginning of our affair. Some of the older girls on here know my situation very well; and are very familiar with the depth of his lies. His lies go beyond regular, every-day white lies. No, he lies in great amounts and exaggerates the truth. I wish I could give more xamples but I'm afraid of giving away my identity.

There was two times I caught him with a hickey on his neck and both times he played if off as if they were nothing but bruises! Ha... he thinks I'm that much of an idiot.

I keep telling myself that he lies to cover up his marriage. That he's afraid if he tells me the truth I'll walk away, etc... but I am starting to not believe that. I just don't know what to do! I wish I never started this affair. =(

 

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Registered: 03-07-2009
Mon, 04-13-2009 - 11:22pm

Well, yeah, hindsight is always nice, right?

maystone
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Registered: 07-17-2004
Tue, 04-14-2009 - 9:21pm
Hey I just saw your post.
 

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