roller coaster ride of emotions
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| Mon, 03-15-2010 - 6:06pm |
3 month affair and almost over. we are still in contact. more so me with him but him when he feels like he needs an ego boost. it is hard because we fell hard and fast for each other. i feel like i can't shake this guy. i feel like he is this great man and great lover....yada yada yada....same old story. we would see each other once a week and it was great and passionate. he said he adored me and liked many qualities i had...i think it was the sex and ego boost for him. i realized when i started to push more...not for time but answers to certain questions...he froze up and didn't want to go there...so that was hard for me....i was never really pushy but in the few questions i had he pushed back...i do notice now that he started to pull away slowly...and when he told me he was going to MC...it was out of the blue..and he even said you knew this wouldn't last...and we must decide how this affair ends...i wasn't in that mind set at all...i never thought about our affair ending and didn't have any ideas about the future..just wanted it to last...i feel used and i know i used him as well..the longest i did NC was for 5 days and then i caved and texted him....it is such a rollercoaster of emotions and i don't advise anyone on getting involved in an affair..it hurts and hurts bad..i love the MM handbook...that is so spot on and make me laugh about such a crappy topic. i love this message board because i know i am not alone.

I'm sorry you're going through this - the end of any relationship is hard. Yes, we usually know an affair can't last forever (although I don't know, mine has been going on for 11 years...) But knowing that doesn't make ending it any easier! There is another board called "ending an affair support" that might help you also. Check it out if you think it can help you, or just vent here if you want. :-)
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlending
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its important we as the other lady (struggly not to get that lable myself) to know that that is just what we'll ever be... other... they say that love is like friendship on fire but i believe that it really isnt love but a roller coaster of emotion that ends in heartbreak. I think it's more like it's easy to begin but hard to end......in the sense that if you start a fire the beginning of it was an easy thing, but once it spreads out, it becomes hard to turn off, or contain, as it just keeps spreading..... and consumes in the process. If ur engaged in an affair please try stop. if u think about it, it was so easy to come to love them... in the confusing excitement anyone would.... its easy to chose to be in it.... but being with