Rollercoaster about to go down....and what are guys thinking?

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Registered: 11-30-2011
Rollercoaster about to go down....and what are guys thinking?
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Mon, 04-02-2012 - 10:21am

So, me n ap met up last week after work.....so we had our quick little hook up (bj).

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Registered: 03-30-2010
Hi Lily,

I'll take a guess from reading your post that your AP is only in it for the physical. Its nothing more or nothing less. If your ok with that than its all good but if your not & you want more than get ready for more rollercoaster rides.

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 04-27-2009

I have to agree with Purplerayne, he sounds like he's only interested in some flirting with the occassional BJ thrown in for good measure.

katuk
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Registered: 10-26-2010
Lily, if a GF of yours told you the things you wrote about this guy, what would you tell her? Think about it, the answers are right there staring at you. I know you want to believe, but to those of us looking in from the outside, it is plain to see it is only for his benefit. If he was into you, he would certainly be touching you. It seems like it started with fun flirting and that moved on to him seeing how far he could really get you to go and what you would do for him. He really isn't offering you much and your getting the high from the attention you are giving him, not what he is giving you. I also.don't mean to come across as harsh. I wish you the best.
~Sunny~
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Registered: 03-26-2010

Whoa!

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Registered: 11-30-2011
So nice to hear "whoa this sounds just like me" . "underlying idea of a challenge" is spot on. As far as the lack of him trying to pleasure me, the closest is him wanting me to play with myself - kind of a cop out! I know. He does pay me compliments but not like at the beginning when it was like HE was like a dog to a bone, always going out his way to come over to me. Now I am more the flatterer, the chaser. And basically begging for it is a familiar feeling.......have i no shame?
I have always KNOWN that there is no future but i just wanted him so bady, sorry to say that he is like my dream guy (apart from cheating part i guess ;p) He is a beautiful man inside and out and exactly what i had dreamed of in a guy since a young girl....it is f'd! HOWEVER, I have a family and am with someone (no angel either) but who i do love and who i plan to be with the rest of my life. Don't have any intention to ever leave, we are happy. This 'thing' was basically because i know i would regret not doing it. (and i don't regret it)
Coming on this board has helped me keep a leveler head than what it could be. I know I have to keep my emotions in check if we gonna flirt like we do. Thanks to you all for input :)
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"experience is cheap, i should have listened to the warning" from Into Temptation by Crowded House