Rules for Affairs

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Registered: 10-13-2003
Rules for Affairs
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Fri, 04-23-2004 - 1:56pm

Okay, we've talked about advice for those in an affair... but what about rules.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 04-23-2004 - 3:47pm
My rules!

1. Take only calculated risks.

2. Plan for all contingencies (CYA!).

3. LISTEN TO YOUR GUT.

4. Don't idealize.

5. Give the best of yourself and realize that a recreational relationship is a chance to give someone else all of the wonderful things about you without all of the CRAP that goes along with it in real life...LOL!

6. Don't overthink.

7. Take comfort knowing that s/he is thinking about you, too.

8. Stay positive.

9. Drop the drama.

10. Don't lose yourself.

11. Have fun!!!!!!!!!!

KC....new member.....first extra-curricular experience.......yikes


Edited 4/23/2004 3:59 pm ET ET by kcbiggs

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Registered: 04-01-2004
Fri, 04-23-2004 - 5:19pm
I would have to say that you cannot have "rules" -

I believe that MM and I have an understanding of our own rules of what is allowed or isn't allowed - such as when to call the other - when not to call -



Overall I just think you cannot go by your everyday world rules - It is what it is

Kikki

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Registered: 08-31-2003
Tue, 04-27-2004 - 4:19pm
Hmm, didn't see this post. Must have missed it. Good Post secretly smiling. Esp the part where you say,

" When D-Day hits, DENY, DENY, DENY, LIE, LIE, LIE, AND CRY, CRY, CRY when he says GOODBYE, GOODBYE, GOODBYE."

Good One!

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Registered: 08-31-2003
Tue, 04-27-2004 - 4:26pm
No making anybody center of your universe is not good, esp in an A. Good point!
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Registered: 10-16-2003
Tue, 04-27-2004 - 4:40pm
Hi everyone,

Just a few of the things I like to do to keep things fun & the tension high.

1) Alternate between great moments of pleasure and calculated absensences.

2) Never complain & never explain.

3) Be a good listener & don't talk too much.

4) Keep all light and enjoy.

5) Create triangles - make him alittle jealous - then reassure.

6) Give him what he is lacking emotionally & physically.

7) Give him little gifts that will remind him of you.

8) Flatter him & make him feel like a million.

Try it - especially #1 - and he will keep coming back for more because you will make him feel so good.

Good Luck,

HFL

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