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| Thu, 01-29-2004 - 3:37pm |
My biggest fear right now is posting to this site! Is it safe to post under my own user name and believe my H won't find out? Is there a way for him to see what I have written through our computer? He does not snoop, but I need to know in case he has any suspicions. How safe is this?
Thanks!
Lazyone
Thanks!
Lazyone

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The whole idea of this thread was is it safe to post from home and someone mentioned doing it from work, it was really a technical discusion, the risk of using your workstation for personal reasons regardless of what they are is that in this age of down sizeing when managers are looking for a head to roll they use the software that monitors the W/S to determine who is productive in terms of raw numbers of hours spent working on company business, I have been on the network end of things for a good number of years and have seen the info gathered used to sack people, and the truth is more and more companies are doing it, The thread is not personal just a discusion.
Try not to assume the worst about Pen tell you have taken the time to et to know her, she is in fact a nice girl.
Have a good night
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I apologize for coming across as judging on this post thread in particular. After looking over it, I realize how it sounded. So pardon me. But truth be told...many companies do view it as company theft even if someone using company equipment to update someone about a sick child. I don't necessarily agree with it, but it is true. Depends on the company.
Yes, I am very pensive and review many of the post during time I set aside for such things, which is why, I do it about an hour or so of free time. Hey, some people watch soaps, some, as is the case with many of us, read and respond to various posts. You too, are entitled to your opinion of me, even if it is not accurate. That is why I mostly ask (opposed to judge. However, I can see how some would come to the conclusion of me that you have, and others appreciate the other point of view. I guess it really depends on what stikes a nerve in some people, and I obviously struck one of yours. Otherwise, like many lurkers and posters, who could really care less, you would ignore. But I'm certainly not suggesting you do that either. Sorry you were so hurt by your EMA.
So again, my apologies for any judging remarks on this thread. As for my other observations, they are just that...observations.
I'll post again tomorrow. Bye for now
Pen
What on Earth are you babbling about?? LOL
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Come on gal, you are slipping! You did ask ask me if I was even in an A...check for yourself. Anyway, Good night until tomorrow.>>
Been thinking a lot about this, huh? LOL Oh lord, come on, let me walk you through this…come on, PENSIVEone…
Doll, when you frame a question (especially in response to a comment), you need to pay more attention to WHAT you are asking (especially if you are going to attempt to debate a philosophical “hard” questions…I’ll leave the spelling aside…:)
“If you don’t care, then why ask?”…“We don’t care” was in reference to who you lay (MM or otherwise). It was not a question, it was a statement. Reread it a few times and hopefully your pensiveness will see you through.
You’re quite confused (but that’s ok, you have time to ponder)…the A question was asked in mockery, as I (and everyone else here) have already determined that you are indeed, NOT in an A.
You’re quick!!!!
All mockery, teasing, and fun hockey games aside, if you would like to ask questions, go right ahead (I meant it when I said I don’t care), but when you start making judgmental comments about people you do NOT KNOW on a WEB BOARD like the following:
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Expect to hear gripes in return!
Now with that said, it’s been fun, but I will be away for a few days…going away with my MM (where most of my time will be spent lying under him in bliss)!!!
You keep pondering and I’ll see you soon.
Thanks for your observations and information you are willing to share.
Good night.
Pen
I know you made it a point to say you would be gone for a few days, so I will just leave this for your reading pleasure for when you get back, seeing as you can not resist.
I agree, I deserve your response to my “and I saw a correlation” statement. I did judge and for that I apologize and deserve your, and anyone else’s shots for that, as you pointed out.
And yes, you are quite quick. Quicker than many in SOME respects. But even though you don’t care, I will just walk YOU through a thing or two for clarification. I’ve read the guidelines and honed in on the,
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I loosely fall into the category of “thought about starting one…” even though I have come up short in describing my experience in some of the recent posts, it is on some of the older ones. I admit, on a few replies, especially within this post, I dropped the ball with the maturity thing…as did you, but I understand..that was more of a retaliatory thing for you…and deservingly so for me. I am not a BS looking for answers. Surprisingly enough, I am someone who “happened by” the site, saw the various boards and became interested in some of the posts. After reading a few of them, it was obvious that not all those who post fit the guidelines or TOS to a T (many of the posts coming from people in A’s). So I figured, why not join in? I have just as much right as anyone else. My initial posts were sincere questions because quite frankly, I am curious about all the hurt some people put themselves through regarding affairs, and why someone would have an A with a good friend’s, spouse, etc. Many of the posts seem nonchalant and vindictive about their A���s rather than supportive. And surprisingly enough, there are MANY unprovoked judgmental statements that people in A’s make about their AP or AP’s spouse. But yet, they don’t like those statements they make applied to them for doing the same thing as AP. Also I view the whole “don’t judge” thing in the same vein as “put yourself in someone else’s shoes”. Not a whole lot of putting oneself in other shoes going on here for some. Some might view being able to put yourself in someone else’s shoes as compassion (BS), others see it as judging. It just depends on what is important to the person.
Many people here in A’s have shared their experiences with me and I have learned from them what I set out to learn….some of the reason they find themselves here, and I am very appreciative or their input. From others, I have learned that if a question is asked that involves an answer that they rather avoid, they get defensive.
Thank you for making a point of being so kind as to not to pick on my misspellings and typos in the last post you responded to. While you are quite in tuned to such things (you quickness), the rest of us realize it is a message board, not a term paper. I’ll leave my proofing for work and other such matters.
I have to admit that I am strongly resisting the urge to tell you some of what I’ve been up to when I am not posting. But for one, as you indicate, you don’t care. And for another thing…I would not want to come across as using the message boards as a tool to convince others of the good time I am having. We all know that many times, the more you claim something (i.e. getting laid and such) there is a possibility that it may not be all one is claiming (but of course, this is not the case with you Happy), and if you don’t see one claiming such activities…maybe they don’t see the need to do so (but I suspect some may delude themselves in thinking otherwise).
Anyway Happy, this long reply and the posts right before it DOES indicate I have been spending too much here as of late (even though it is not nearly as much as others). But I just knew you had something to say and I wanted to reply. With that being said, I will follow your lead (see I learn things from others here, yourself included) and see how things are going in a few days…and yes, I will spend much of my time “thinking” as well as other things. No shame in thinking. Some people make it a point to pride themselves on getting laid, others pride themselves on thinking…it is how you learn (all though falling behind in spelling correctly on message boards LOL).
Pen
ah, pensive, thank goodness for my coffee this morning.
CL-Gurlfriend50
Co-CL of My Affair Support Board
I don't get reports of their emails.... I know that my company keeps backup tapes of all emails because they need to legally..... and if they had the urge to fire me, my internet/email trail would be all they needed... I would have no defense. So you are right. The thing that bothered me was when you said look at what board we're on.... it hurt... sorry, but it did.... I have cheated, lied, deceived others..... and am still trying to get out of this relationship..... God, do I suck or what?
I used to post on this board a lot, under another name... I made many good friends and read some heartbreaking stories... had my heart broken also..
Sorry, pen..... I do think I remember you from the old days.... The trolls got to be too much for me, and I left.
Yes, be careful..... VERY careful........ but in a way, pen is right, if we were careful, we wouldn't be in EMA's...
Thanks,
Sorry to be such a hag,
NS
You sound like someone who has made a mistake and is trying to figure out how to deal. We all make mistakes. I have never claimed not to make any. I realized I "sucked" too with the way I posted some things here. While there is truth to the some of the posts, my approach could have been more compassionate and I should have gave some advice about the dangers of connecting to such a site at work...in addition to getting fired for violating company policy, think of the embarrassment for the actual sites and messages one wrote. You probably know as well as I do that while it is also in violation of company policy to discuss the specifics of one's termination, word gets out and people have a field day with it.
If I remind you of someone from the past, it is just that. I just recetnly started posting here this past Jan. I got absorbed when I really should not. I go on and on about this in the other post about the Friday Roll Call.
Take care,
Pen
Take care, Pen.......
I'm gonna go back to lurking.... didn't mean to be rude.
Thanks,
ns
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