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Same sex affairs...
| Thu, 11-20-2003 - 10:30am |
My cousin just discovered his wife has been having an affair with another women...do we have anyone with us in that situation? Im curious how the details of this type of affair differ from a hetrosexual affair...
cl-liberalgirl
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I too am curious about the different dynamic. For starters, I bet they have an easier time getting alone time together, and nobody thinks twice about seeing them out in public together!
anyway, i now return you to your regularly scheduled thread.....
gurl
Hey Ladies,
We did have a lovely member on board some time back that was in a same sex affair... but she seems to have gone missing in action... as I lot do.
I will say I've had word regarding a few members on other boards about being discovered in same sex affairs... that were a little worried about posting here... maybe this is our chance to welcome them to join in if they are out and about lurking and to let them know they are more than welcome to be here.
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gurl
My aunt left my uncle for another women...although it was a phase and while they are still divorced, she's gone back to men. I would imagine that infedelity is the same no matter who is involved. There's still secrets, hiding, anxiety, and rollercoaster emotions.
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cl-liberalgirl
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Women having an affair with another woman could be for any number of reasons. SOme women are tampering with the idea of leaving men and being with women exclusively. Some women can get really emotionaly involved with abother woman but still keep the same exclusive feelings for her man. And some...just like the touch of a woman and keep it purely physical.
I have a girlfriend...if you willl...she and i are friends, good friends...we talk about all the regular stuff that chicks talk about...husbands...getting pregnet and having children. We hang out and then sometimes just get touchy feely with one another. We kiss and stuff like that...but there really is no emotional investment in this relationship. In fact, it never occured to me to come to this board for any kind of advice or support for my relationship with her. It never became that confusing or stressful. Its so mellow and laid back. Now true lesbians don't like ppl like me...they tend to take the side that either you do like women only or you like men. So bisexuals tend to lay low cuz of all the criticsm from lesbian women. Know what i mean?
And....this is crazy....i met mm online while looking for a woman.
Yes i do come to this board for my relationship with mm...(yes i know, crazy life) but like i said, my relationship with her is free from all the caos one has in a relationship with someone they have invested emotionally in.
So in answer to your question Liberal...the relationship with your cousins wife and her lady friend...could be serious, or could be just a play thing. It all depends on her frame of mind. So you could never really understand it without asking her point blank.
Hope that helps.
Let me know if you want to know anything else.
And one last thing...one poster said it was probably easier to have time with the lady than with any mm/om. Not necessarily true. It is easier for her cuz her husband keeps her on long leash...mine doesn't. And he would want to know why i was spending so much time with this NEW friend. And how do you explain going out and getting a room just the two of you. I guess thats becuz i knew what i was doing with this woman..i would appear guilty with the h. Its not any easier with a woman. And in public...well....ppl will stare at two woman way more than a guy/girl type thing. So discretion is still a must.
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