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| Thu, 10-02-2003 - 4:02am |
MM took some time off from work cuz W got balls to come to my home.
She called more than she tried finding where i live. she had their two kids with them at midnight last week.
She left mean messages on my phone....called me names, said I was a loser. Was I wrong to call her sad, lonely, sexually deprived woman who is more pathetic than me because she was looking for her H at midnight at my house? She has a lot of time on her hands really.
She is always digging for answers to her questions that he won't answer.
They started counseling. I feel like he's going to change his mind. He says he hates her though. He says he can't stand to be in the same room with her let alone the same house. Girlfriend of mine asked me if MM was worth all the drama I have been through these last few months. He promised me love, He promised that he wouldn't hurt me. He says with or without me, he is leaving W. But would be happy if I was there. He doesn't go back on his promises. Not with me at least. There's a lot going on.....hoping that it will be all okay when he comes back. He calls me, tells me that I am his number one girl and that he loves me. Feels so good to hear him say that. He told me to have FAITH in US. I am scared of losing him. He says that he wants the opportinity that GOD has put before him and didn't want to go through the rest of his life saying "what if".
I guess I need to stay strong, but it's so hard. gonna spend my first weekend alone....DS is going to his dad's....MM gonna be with W and his mom, who is visiting. Promises to call.....Will wait and see. Thanks for listening. Opinions are very welcome.
She called more than she tried finding where i live. she had their two kids with them at midnight last week.
She left mean messages on my phone....called me names, said I was a loser. Was I wrong to call her sad, lonely, sexually deprived woman who is more pathetic than me because she was looking for her H at midnight at my house? She has a lot of time on her hands really.
She is always digging for answers to her questions that he won't answer.
They started counseling. I feel like he's going to change his mind. He says he hates her though. He says he can't stand to be in the same room with her let alone the same house. Girlfriend of mine asked me if MM was worth all the drama I have been through these last few months. He promised me love, He promised that he wouldn't hurt me. He says with or without me, he is leaving W. But would be happy if I was there. He doesn't go back on his promises. Not with me at least. There's a lot going on.....hoping that it will be all okay when he comes back. He calls me, tells me that I am his number one girl and that he loves me. Feels so good to hear him say that. He told me to have FAITH in US. I am scared of losing him. He says that he wants the opportinity that GOD has put before him and didn't want to go through the rest of his life saying "what if".
I guess I need to stay strong, but it's so hard. gonna spend my first weekend alone....DS is going to his dad's....MM gonna be with W and his mom, who is visiting. Promises to call.....Will wait and see. Thanks for listening. Opinions are very welcome.

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First of all in any right womans mind you do not bring your kids to stalk someone...thats just not right - kids should not be brought into it.
Now you said you were at the other end and you did not follow him - that says alot you accepted it and moved on. I mean I dont understand women why they would stay with a man they dont love or dont love them. If a man tells you I dont love you - its time to go.
I hope everything is going better for you and let me know whats up - y dont u email me if you dont want to post on here!! TXSandy_98@yahoo.com
Hugs - Sandy
Txsandy is right about the kids, that was wrong for her to bring them and include them in all of what is going on.
I may be wrong here but I don't think that I or mommy or yogachic were being hypocritical just offering some insight.
We are all here for a variety of reasons, we are all in different relationships for whatever reasons but at times others can offer us a chance to look at things in a different perspective.
If you have found love, that is wonderful and unfortunately no matter what route anyone takes quite often someone will get hurt along the way. It's just that we should always keep that in mind, and I guess look at things from the hurt persons point of view. That is all I was trying to say.
I do wish you the best and hope all works out.
Sweettendencies
No one 'jumped down' anyone's back. People DID give her opinions, respectfully, which she asked for (re-read the last line of the original post, which is "Opinions are very welcome").
YOUR opinion is duly noted. Now, let it die.
And very ture I totally agree with your post. About people getting ugly and rude without asking all the questions and whats going on prior to just going at it.
AND LIKE I SAID BEFORE and YOU SAID- we are all in this board - having an affair - so yes dont come back saying you feel sorry for the W - cuz ur screwing the H. Thats just plain being a hypocrit (SP??)!!
Anyways thanks - and talk to you later.
Sandy
However it appears to me that when someone does not agree with ones opinion on this particular thread they choose to keep going and going and going. We were asked for our opinion, it was given, case closed.
Thank you. I have been trying to figure out why I'm being personally attacked for giving an honest opinion, after it was asked for.
There seem to be a few people who automatically get defensive when opinions differ from their own. There's not much anyone can do about that, except try to understand and sympathize why such people are that way. Which I'm trying to do.
Sandy didn't ask for my opinion, even though my opinion was completely misinterpreted by everyone who has attacked me. She merely agreed with the first poster. So I have edited my post to remove the reference to her.
Been watching this post too. I don't think anyone here has said anything that should be considered offensive. People are just giving their opinions, and asking people to look at these situations from different perspectives. (Yoga could've left out the "scaaary" remark -- but hey, that's Yoga!)
I don't see anything wrong with asking someone to consider the feelings of the W -- or think a little more about how MM's actions sometimes play a part in these situations.
JMHO
No thanks needed, the misunderstanding is going against all of us who offered a different perspective.
I find you often offer very good, sensible, and realistic advice and value your opinion and EVERYONES for that matter
Hugs
Sweettendencies
You did not have to edit your message - Everyone has the right to express how they feel. We come on here to get other point of views...and sometimes we agree and sometimes we dont.
But when you get right down ugly IM NOT REFERRING TO YOU or some on this post - just other post - thats just wrong. Yea opinions are welcomed but to call someone HEARTLESS or STUPID or something like that cant recall exact words thats just not cool....I mean there are other ways around it without getting ugly.
NO OFENSE TAKEN -
I mean sometimes it just seems from the posts that its actually the spouse who has been betrayed at times. You wonder if they are actually in an EMA.
Sandy
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