Second Place.....Anyone?

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Registered: 01-24-2004
Second Place.....Anyone?
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Tue, 01-27-2004 - 11:42pm
I just thought of something else that has been bothering me: Can any of you relate to or tell me if any of you are EVER bothered by the feeling of being second or less important? Am I wrong for feeling this way?
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Registered: 01-04-2004
Wed, 01-28-2004 - 12:14am
you will always be second place to the W. time spent togther, xmas gifts, etc. it just goes with the territory. one announcement from her that they're going out to dinner, and you can kiss your evening together goodbye. i know it sucks, but its the "rule".
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Registered: 04-20-2003
Wed, 01-28-2004 - 1:32pm


the best way I've found to deal with it is to try not to even think

about yourself being "second best". if he makes sacrifices or does anything

he can to see you, talk to you, etc, you shouldn't feel like you're

second best. even though MM and I can't see each other that often,

it doesn't mean that I'm not in his thoughts or heart... your MM can

be at home, but his heart is with you. (assuming that your relationship

has gone that far yet) If the 2 of you do not plan on leaving your respective

spouses for one another, just remember that taking care of your own spouse/

family is priority #1, and will most likely be for your MM too.

don't get me wrong, I have my moments too... I wanted to meet with MM one night after

work, and he said he couldn't... I finally got it out of him- he said that

his W was planning a dinner for just the 2 of them at home. wow, that stung.

really, really stung me. I'd never felt so heartbroken before. and he didn't

want to hurt me, but at least he told me the truth.



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Registered: 01-28-2004
Wed, 01-28-2004 - 6:51pm
I know where you are coming from. I am currently involved with a mm and I am m myself. Even though I have a husband I can't stand being the "other women" or #2. It sucks! Especially if you really like this guy and you feel like you have a connection.