Seeing AP with Wife
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Seeing AP with Wife
| Mon, 04-20-2009 - 8:17am |
I hate to see my AP with his wife and he hates seeing me with my hubby. Hubby followed me to a social scene over the weekend where AP was going to be as well. Ap didn't know hubby was coming with me, and the look on ap's face when we showed up was one of shock and surprise. He sat there looking lost until my hubby started a conversation with him, then ap relaxed, and seemed a lot more comfortable in our presence.
I can't help but feel like my hubby totally imposed on mine and my ap's time together. I also felt like my hubby was nothing but a "tag-a-long" that evening. we didn't even hang together or anything. I thought for sure he was going to say something about ap...and the way ap kept sitting next to me, coming over to me, nothing inappropriate, tho.
This is totally different than if i saw ap with his wife. Her and i hate each other and would never even think of speaking civilly to one another. I guess if i liked the way she treated him, i wouldn't have gotten involved with him at all. Nor him with me. And ap and i dont talk much at all when she is out with him. But we do talk when i am out with my hubby. It's so different now than it was 3 years ago...we all used to get together and socialize, until we found out how much me and AP have in common and the deeper friendship erupted from there, with my life never to be the same again. And the four of us have never been together again. I think my life was simpler back then, but i am a lot happier on the inside now. Even through the confusion. I know i can't stand seeing him out in public with her. Mainly cuz she treats him like he's her servant, not her best friend.
How do you deal when you see your AP out with their spouse? Do you talk to each other?
I can't help but feel like my hubby totally imposed on mine and my ap's time together. I also felt like my hubby was nothing but a "tag-a-long" that evening. we didn't even hang together or anything. I thought for sure he was going to say something about ap...and the way ap kept sitting next to me, coming over to me, nothing inappropriate, tho.
This is totally different than if i saw ap with his wife. Her and i hate each other and would never even think of speaking civilly to one another. I guess if i liked the way she treated him, i wouldn't have gotten involved with him at all. Nor him with me. And ap and i dont talk much at all when she is out with him. But we do talk when i am out with my hubby. It's so different now than it was 3 years ago...we all used to get together and socialize, until we found out how much me and AP have in common and the deeper friendship erupted from there, with my life never to be the same again. And the four of us have never been together again. I think my life was simpler back then, but i am a lot happier on the inside now. Even through the confusion. I know i can't stand seeing him out in public with her. Mainly cuz she treats him like he's her servant, not her best friend.
How do you deal when you see your AP out with their spouse? Do you talk to each other?

I cannot say I was ever close to being in your shoes, APs family and my family never knew the other existed.
I did see AP with wife one night at a bar, I was out with gals from work and did not know I would ever run into them where we were. Anyhow, we acknowledged one another's presence with an all knowing smile, and each time he went to the bar, he would kick my chair. One GF asked if I knew this guy and I said "no, he must be pretty hammered tho, he keeps tripping over my chair".
I have never seen my AP with his W and im sure it would just devestate me.
I HATE IT.His W is trying hard to rebuild but i dont believe they can as my AP and I are in contact even after D-day and what i read here is that you cant rebuild w/o complete NC.My AP doesnt know this and honestly ( no slashing please !!) i dont want him to know this basic but very important thing required in rebuilding.
I HATE IT.i feel good in knowing that they have no sex life and no life outside as well even tho his W is trying to rebuild.
I love him and dont want to lose him.sorry i rambled but i hate it that my AP is still living with her under the same roof.
I have not seen mine together but they live in different states due to personal choices.
I have met people that know her and that tends to be odd and yet nice in away as they were uncomfortable with her. She is beautiful I have seen pictures, but she lacks the ability I think to be welcoming to people. It does not make her a bad person just not really friendly or open to such things as new friends. She is more of a social butterfly from what I learned .
Which is fine as its in another state and does not include AP. But sometimes when I think about it..I am average not beautiful in social standards... A bit cute and scruffy LOL.
But I know I am in my own way an awesome person. And perhaps because I truly like me it does not matter as much other then the human natured thought of...okay she is pretty .ButI learned the hard way beauty is indeed only an illusion..and its what inside that shines longer and brighter then any movie star looks.
Sometimes life can be so complicated yet wonderful too.
I dont want to see his wifey.My other man has seen my hubby and obviously ,he doent like him.who would?we both are madly in love with each other and just waiting to take the final leap for a night together.
If i ever bump into them ,as a wifey and hubby, i would go crazy.Gosh, i should have thought about this.
i have seen AP with his wife on occassion.