Serial Cheater

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Registered: 10-25-2008
Serial Cheater
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Thu, 11-28-2013 - 10:41pm

When I do it - I do it big!! I have myself in a pickle.  I have been seeing this other person for 8 years ( we are both married and have no intenetions of leaving for each other). Well, he told me he loved me in October, which was fine - I have love for him too, but I heard through the grapevine is sleeps with everyone.  I always thought he was sleeping with other peolpe - which at the end of the day - its a fwb situaiton so I don't have any right to control him, etc.  

I am ready to end it, but am aftraid that he may use certain pics/videos against me - does anyone know how to use a spyware downlowad to get a password?  A keylogger installer?  I just want this to be over....

DON"T ever take pics/videos...

I was stupid...

I would like your opinions..

Thanks!

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Registered: 11-29-2013
Fri, 11-29-2013 - 2:42am
You reap what you sow, that's what I'd say. Good luck!
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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sat, 11-30-2013 - 3:17pm

Whose computer is it?  His?  Yours?  Big difference.  Keyloggers can be illegal under hacking and stalking laws.  Did you water mark or other wise identify those so you can claim ownership.  I suggest telling him that you are feeling paronoid and want to down load the pics to a offline external harddrive that you will put into a safety deposit box.  Flash drives Sandisk has a flash drive that can easily be password guarded,encrypted. then destroy it by magnetic and inceneration.  Trickery is the only option you have then delete all communications.

dragowoman

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Registered: 10-25-2008
Sat, 11-30-2013 - 10:36pm

Thanks for your comment - very helpful (and trust me - I am quite aware of what I have done).

JayBelieber wrote:
You reap what you sow, that's what I'd say. Good luck!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-25-2008
Sat, 11-30-2013 - 10:38pm

Thanks for your comment.  It is his computer.  I have been so emotionally over this guy for a while now and have not seen him for almost 2 months.... I am ready to move on and stop my behavior all together..

I cannot believe how stupid I have been.  Hate having those things out there...

What is done is done....

Thanks for your comment

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-29-2013
Mon, 12-02-2013 - 2:35am
C'mon you gotta be honest here. Clearly you're not aware of what you've done, if you have you wouldn't have done it. Is common sense too much for you?
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Registered: 09-21-2007
Mon, 12-02-2013 - 9:39am
Jay...did you read the title...My Affair Support. Femaleff2 isn't here for you to state the obvious. She is looking for support and that doesn't sound like support to me. As for the common sense comment...totally out of line. F...I hope someone has an answer for you. I think if you haven't heard from him in a while, you may be free and clear. I would just try to move past this and hope that whatever he has never surfaces. Good luck!

 

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-25-2008
Mon, 12-02-2013 - 11:07pm

I know it sounds so stupid...I was stupid and had no common sense...learn from my stupidity

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-25-2008
Mon, 12-02-2013 - 11:08pm

Thanks....I appreciate your comment and the support....I will keep everyone abreast

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-23-2010
Tue, 12-03-2013 - 12:10pm
Why in the WORLD would you make a video with a fwb while you are M to someone else? SMH Are you in counseling?
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-25-2008
Tue, 12-03-2013 - 10:26pm

It was not a video - it is about 3 pics and my face are not in any of them....just gives me the creeps that he has them.  

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