serious answers only please

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Registered: 06-08-2007
serious answers only please
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Mon, 01-19-2009 - 10:10pm
i just got an email from my xap, i guess he's having a bad time at home. he may be leaving for a couple of days, and he wanted to let me know. i answered him back in 2 seperate emails, one told him i'm sorry for what's going on(not sure of the details), and 2 i told him if he needed to talk to let me know. anything else i can do for him. i know from past experience how his state of mind can get. i would like to be able to keep him in rational thought, not crazy. if anyone has serous answers, not criticizing, help me out. thanks.
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Registered: 11-28-2007
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 10:57pm

Nothing you can do but make sure he knows you are there for him if he needs to talk - and you have done that.


Now you simply have to sit back and wait for him to come to you - and that is so horribly difficult - but it's the nature of A-land.


Hang in there - stay strong - and I hope things settle down for AP as well.


Hugs -


Tgr ;)


lightning in my heart

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Mon, 01-19-2009 - 11:04pm
he just sent me another email telling me he'll talk to me tommorrow, i emailed him simply stating i'm concerned for him. i just wish he wouldn't even risk to email me with his wife home. sometimes he gets a little to brave. especially lately. so unlike him. for a year and a half he was mr paraniod.
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Registered: 06-08-2007
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 1:01pm
Like i said in one post, he said he would talk to me today. I have not heard from him. Im wondering if i should send him an email just asking him if he is alright. In the past when he has had fights at home, and they do get bad, he has never really contacted me frantic. I would not know about it until a week later, except for the day he seen me on his anniversary. What do you guys think. I dont want to invade hiis space, but i want to knowhe is ok. In the past he has pushed me away.
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Registered: 01-17-2009
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 1:06pm

Waiting is the hardest thing to do, but, I think you need to wait it out. You let him know you will be there for him, he knows this. I am sure he will contact you when he can.

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Registered: 06-08-2007
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 1:16pm
It hurts my heart when he gets like this. Thanks for your reponse, and you are right.
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Registered: 12-12-2008
Tue, 01-20-2009 - 1:44pm
You can stop calling him you x AP. He is your AP that