serious queation part 2, results.

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serious queation part 2, results.
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Fri, 11-21-2008 - 11:47am

for those who are curious, everything with the lump is ok. to let you guys know, to check for genital warts, use white vinegar, if it turns pale or white, it's warts, if it don't change color, it's ok. just like you guys said, from shaving there, i most likely knicked myself, and i healed with a lump.

now with my other issue, she's very concerned. i told her it's my left pelvic side where the pain is. she feels it could be something with my fallopian tubes or ovaries. i'm going in for a sonagram on monday before my pap in dec. not to get graphic, but when she put her fingers in me, afterwards i thought i would hit the roof with shooting pain. she thinks it could a partial tubal pregnancy, i told her it's been going on for a while, that now has gotten worse. one day at a time. maybe getting laid off was a blessing in a way, it's forcing me to take care of my health, which i'll ignore. thanks for the support.

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Sat, 11-22-2008 - 9:26pm
If you read the first post of this thread, I did take care of something, a lump because I was concerned for my ap. Then my concern went for his wife and my husband.I have been intimate with my ap for 2 years, I'm the only one and his wife he's intimate with, the same with my h, I'm the only he sleeps with. My ap and h when I have to, I sleep with.I hate dr, and don't go, but in this case I had no choice and went. When some one else is involved, its different. Just me it don't matter. Mu other problem I'm getting checked out because I was already there, ap asked me to, I'm doing it for him, the pain has gotten worse. My ap doesn't know about the lump. I'll. Finish the exam for my ap. If it wasn't for him being a pain, I wouldn't do it. That's why I'm doing the sonogram for him and the pap for him, not for me so much.most likely I would just ignore it some more. I hate dr. I have a phobia. I rather not know nothing.
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Sat, 11-22-2008 - 10:23pm
I know this is off topic a little bit, but I guess I don't understand why you would not tell your husband any of this. I guess I can understand the bump part, but the gynecological stuff? How is that? I mean, I don't know your whole story but even though you're having an affair and totally hung up on your AP, I would think that you would have some feelings for your husband and marriage, so why he would not be included in this, but your AP is, I don't understand.
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Sun, 11-23-2008 - 12:44am
My h and I really do live two seperate lives. We don't say much to each other at all. In the last 10 years the communication break down started, but in the last 3 our communication seems almost non exhistant. We live like room mates. We have the occassional duty sex.today I tell him that I am going for a sonogram next week to have myself checked out.I happen to go to my ap for just about everything. If the situation needs to wait, ill hold off until I can get input from him.
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Sun, 11-23-2008 - 1:18am

Ya know, Tori...I am absolutely confused by your posts about your medical situation, but hopefully you will learn more Monday and get the facts straight.


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Sun, 11-23-2008 - 2:40am

I understand where Tori is coming from.I also hate doctors, though I see enough of them, my health isn't great. Many of the ones I have seen in recent years are so incompetent. I do not go unless it is a medical necessity. I end up in emergency as often as I see a doctor any other way.

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Edited 11/23/2008 9:06 pm ET by pisces2008
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Sun, 11-23-2008 - 10:02am
it least some one understands. dr terrify me to the point when i walk in the office i start to shake. i don't go, unless i absolutely have to. i have a phobia of them. knock on wood all my life i've been healthy. no sickness that has required medical care. things i can nurse myself. the lump was something i knew i had to have looked at because more then myself was involved. i couldn't handle being in there, and almost walked out. that was a clean bill of health. my pelvic i have to go, it just hurts. there are people that don't make a point of going to dr, and i'm one of them.
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Sun, 11-23-2008 - 11:41am

I understand where Tori is coming from too.


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Sun, 11-23-2008 - 12:36pm

I certainly understand the phobias people have about doctors. But I also think it's very important that people understand the risks they are taking by avoiding them. There are many physical ailments which left unchecked can have disastrous results. Cancer being one of them. If by chance you were unlucky enough to contract this disease, wouldn't you feel horrible if you found out you had it, and had they found it earlier, you would have probably survived but are now most likely not going to? I know I would.

There is nothing to fear about going in to see a doctor for an annual checkup. It's just good, common sense. Your body is like your car.....keep the maintenance up and it will probably run well. Neglect it and there's trouble. Also...if you did get into the habit, perhaps going to the doctor regularly would lose it's scariness for you.

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Sun, 11-23-2008 - 3:12pm

"there are people that don't make a point of going to dr, and i'm one of them."


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Sun, 11-23-2008 - 6:32pm
Another supposed "miscarriage" again, huh? Did you go to the Dr. last year when you miscarried AP's baby?