Setting a Deadline? Other Thoughts?
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Setting a Deadline? Other Thoughts?
| Fri, 08-29-2008 - 4:47pm |
As many of you know, my AP is in the midst of leaving his M. He tells me often how much he loves me and wants a life with me. And he hasn't done anything at all to show me

idk-
*I have to preface my post by explaining that i'm a BS not an OW (just so you know where my perspective comes from)*
I'm sorry i'm not too familiar with your situation but how old are his kids (roughly, of course)?
Peanut!!!
Edited because i'm an idiot and read this post wrong LOL! Thought you were emailing me.
Edited 8/29/2008 10:18 pm ET by iluvlittlepeanut
Edited 8/29/2008 10:20 pm ET by iluvlittlepeanut
LOL - love ya Peanut!!!
He has not used the divorce word, just told her that he isn't interested in working on it and wants to move out of the house.
This part confuses me some.
First off, JMHO.
In the entire 2 years I was with my XAP he was always in the "midst" of getting a D. He would tell me how he and his W talked about it. Well..it has been almost three years now and he is STILL in the midst of getting a D.
Honestly..once you break the news..you have usually made a plan and gotten out. The day I left my H I grabbed some clothes and crashed on someone else's couch. I never moved back in. It would have been too strange and uncomfortable and confusing.
It is up to you how long you wait. I appreciate the fact that he is being careful because of his children. I think you have the right to ask what his timeline is. If he doesn't like being asked..then he has something to hide.
Good luck.
I suspect he's confused, but he insists otherwise.