A for sex only

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Registered: 09-09-2009
A for sex only
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Tue, 09-29-2009 - 1:03pm

Hi everyone.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2009
Tue, 09-29-2009 - 4:30pm

LOL Goddess!

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2009
Tue, 09-29-2009 - 4:38pm

I have a few issues with my H that he is not willing to work on.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-18-2009
Tue, 09-29-2009 - 4:52pm

It sounds like you are caught between a rock and a hard place - excuse the phrase.


It sounds that in every aspect you are satisfied with him but in this area.

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Registered: 04-17-2009
Tue, 09-29-2009 - 7:26pm

GM --


This same page upper right corner as you're reading posts on, the link says "advanced search"--- search for written by BTDTBD44.


Please, please read....I wish someone had done this for me.


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Registered: 05-18-2007
Tue, 09-29-2009 - 9:01pm

In my experience no matter how good the sex is you want more and more and can never fill that part of you. It's like eating and eating when you have a hole in your stomach and the food just falls out after you eat it. Soon enough even once a day is not enough to fill you.


Let's say (God forbid) you do go this route. There is no going back. What are the consiquences?


1. Let's say the man you choose is hot and attracts you physically as your husband does. What if he sucks in bed too? Will go through a bunch of men to try find one that satisfies you?


2. You have a great relationship with your husband otherwise. You feel close to him, talk to him and share so much in life. An A will create this secret life that all the sudden you won't be able to be open with him. You will begin to form lies to cover all your bases just to get off. You will start to feel like "I am a crappy wife... my husband loves me, treats me nice is sweet and all I can do is lie to him." You will destroy yourself on the inside and begin to feel this gutt wrenching pain (guilt) that will tear your self esteem apart. This will all result in a wedge between you and your husband emotionally.


3. You can do

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2009
Wed, 09-30-2009 - 3:10pm

Hello everyone.

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Registered: 12-30-2008
Wed, 09-30-2009 - 3:11pm

For the record... yes just sex A's do exist and work. That said they defiantly have challenges. Like others said... attachment is a risk... but not jut on the woman side. I've had multiple FWB relationships crash and burn because the GUY got attached.

My A started while i was still with my last BF... our sex life had crashed. Despite lots of efforts it wasn't getting better. AP and I had been online friends for years at that point. Finally one day I just couldn't take it BF had ruined a date the night before we hadn't had successful sex in weeks... so when AP joked so are we getting together today I said sure.

I'm now single... still looking for Mr Right... AP is still married with no plans of changing that. We're happy with this arrangement.

Check out my post in the Venting section.... "Topics that Push my Buttons" it covers how laid back i am about things... and that is really what makes a "just sex" thing work.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-23-2009
Wed, 09-30-2009 - 4:09pm

I'm glad that you were able to make up your mind before actually "doing" anything.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-18-2009
Wed, 09-30-2009 - 4:23pm

Good luck on your journey Goddess.

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