Sexual ties...

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Registered: 03-30-2010
Sexual ties...
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Wed, 08-29-2012 - 11:36am

I found this article and thought it was very interesting. What are your thoughts on this...

Every time you have sexual intercourse with someone you become one with that person.  You are united to that person in every way possible.  Your spirit, emotions, & every aspect of your being is united with that person.  It is not just a physical act where you release sexual tension.  You become joined to the person or people you have sex with.  One of the meanings of the word joined for the Greek means "glued to" so when you have sex with someone that you are not married to you become glued to them. 

Whenever you pull apart something that has been glued together there is always damage to one or both parts and some times it is very painful to disconnect the parts.  That is why the emotional trauma after adults are involved in sexual activity is so intense. Sometimes when there is a separation of something glued together, a portion of one of the parts may remain attached even when the two parts have separated.  

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 05-15-2012
Wed, 08-29-2012 - 12:26pm

This is just my opinion, but I agree that a certain rapport needs to be established before diving in bed with anyone.  That being said I have had some relationships that were nothing more than friends with benefits.  I can't just sleep with any stranger on the street... err... well let me rephrase that, if a Victorias Secret supermodel walked up to me, sure I guess I could.  However, it wouldn't be any where near as enjoyable as your average middle aged housewife with whom I've established a connection on a personal level with.  As far as being glued, I do feel close to them on a personal and intimate level, but I don't have a problem with the disconnect if she should choose to go her own way.  I guess that's the cliche typical guy response, but I've had my heart broken once and since then I keep my emotions in check to prevent it from ever happening again.

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Registered: 10-18-2009
Wed, 08-29-2012 - 12:27pm

Yes, it was an interesting article and the emotional bond becomes stronger each time for the woman. For the man.. it depends on the type of man.

->purplerayne  No offence but when are you going to get a haircut or a different quote? Nothing against your quote but in general if they don't change they sort of become like a song that gets stuck in your head and you can't get it out no matter what :smileywink:

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Registered: 03-30-2010
Wed, 08-29-2012 - 12:34pm
A change is always good and I have no problem switching up but I do prefer the long hair ; )....

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 05-06-2009
Wed, 08-29-2012 - 1:30pm
I'm not sure if I agree with this Rayne.  I mean, if I'm already emotionally involved with someone, then the sex will probably be intensely connecting, but I can also say that the one man that I think I've had the strongest spiritual, emotional and even sexual connection with was someone I have never even kissed (but did spend time with).
 
Plus - what about prostitutes - are they emotionally and spiritually "one" with their johns' (is that the right term?) and vice versa?  Or one night stands/random hook ups?  Do they all go through emotional trauma after they have to get unglued?  I doubt it.  
Also, that's kind of gross to think of - glued to each other from sex.  Icky.
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Registered: 03-30-2010
Wed, 08-29-2012 - 2:57pm
I take most of this article to mean that even after sex regardless if feelings are involved or not that a part of that person or their energy is a part of you. I believe in the exchanging of sexual energy and believe it's more intense when the emotions are strong.
As far as prostitutes or whoever is involved with one night stands/ random hook up? I don't think they are emotionally traumatized from that experience but they did share a very intimate part of themselves that bonded them momentarily as human beings.
The whole glued/unglued part is not meant literally. To me I think its meant as far as sharing a part of yourself and having to detach.

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 05-06-2009
Wed, 08-29-2012 - 3:59pm

Yeah - I didn't really think they meant glued literally :smileywink:  

Just the mental picture I got from the phrasing... 

And as far as energy - I don't think it takes sex to transfer that, but I do agree that it can most definitely intensify it - with the right person.

Hope you're doing well Rayne. 

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Registered: 03-26-2010
Wed, 08-29-2012 - 9:57pm

Oh, god...when I think of some of the ridiculous morons I have glued my soul to!  :smileyhappy:  Thank goodness I am being much more selective nowadays.