Sexy, Sweetie or Sue???
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Sexy, Sweetie or Sue???
| Tue, 09-09-2003 - 9:52pm |
I'm a MW and I've been involved in a sexual relationship with a MM for a few months now. We've known each other very casually for over a year. Neither of us has any intention of leaving our spouses. We haven't made any effort to get to know each other any better. Actually we know very little about each other. We communicate via e-mail, instant messenger and cell phone. At the beginning he used to open an IM, e-mail or phone call with, "Hi Sexy" or Hi Sweetie". He signed off with Big Hugs, and his name. He also used to call the morning after we were together and say it was so nice being with a beautiful, sexy woman, etc., etc. You get the picture.Now he says,(names have been changed for obvious reasons) "Hi Sue" and signs off with "Jack". After being intimate for a few months why the change? I felt really good when he used Sexy and Sweetie. I'm confused.Should I bring this up with him? Will he think I want more out of our relationship if I do and scare him off? Any opinions are welcome! Thanks!

I so wanted to reply to you the other day... but I was unable to.
In my opinion... and of course that is my opinion... I think that he may just be getting more comfortable with you and your relationship by calling you by your real name rather than an endearment.
I know myself... with my inlaws... I avoided calling them by their names... don't ask me how I did for so many years... but then one day it was comfortable and their names just rolled off my tongue and now I wouldn't think twice about it.
I'd be pleased... but if you miss those other names... then just simply tell him that you enjoy it when he uses them.
luv and hugs
Sweet
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I do call him sexy, sweetie, handsome and other pet names. I also think it's best because we won't slip up when talking to our spouses if we get into the habit of using pet names.
I think I'll just tell him it makes me feel special when he calls me by a pet name. He did refer to me as "his Baby" the other night when we were together.
Thanks!
beachbabe
Maybe you're right and it just means he's more comfortable with me. I analyze things too much and I'm way too insecure about all of this. Thanks!
beachbabe