She emailed me

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She emailed me
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Wed, 10-01-2003 - 12:50pm
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Edited 4/26/2004 2:10 pm ET ET by boston53

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Registered: 09-09-2003
In reply to: boston53
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 1:48pm
boston,

sounds like a fairy tale romance. I really feel for you and her. It's also a lesson to all of us to seize what we want when we want it and not let our own egos get in the way.

Laugh Smiles

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: boston53
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 2:06pm
wow, boston, that is some email message. i say "GO FOR IT!!" email her back and tell her you are waiting for her to make the correct decision and be with you.

***But now that you are back I can't stand the thought of not having you in my life. I want to be with you, to be loved by you, to be held by you, to fall asleep and wake up beside you. I've never felt so intense about anyone in my life. This really is something that only happens once in a lifetime.*** tell her to stop wasting time, its already been over 2 years wasted, and that you want to have a lifetime together. those are her words, tell her to believe them!

don't let her get away again.

best of luck,

gurl

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Registered: 09-02-2003
In reply to: boston53
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 2:11pm
Boston,

I am mainly a lurker. I have never posted. But after reading your post all I have to say is GO FOR IT!!!

What do you have to lose? You lost her one time by not going after her. Don't let it slip away again. Why spend the rest of your life wondering about what could have been.

You have to do this for all us hopeless romantics out there!

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Registered: 04-24-2003
In reply to: boston53
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 3:00pm
*sniff, sniff* It seems as if I could have been the one writing that message to my MM. Sounds like you whole relationship was entangled with a series of misunderstandings. Boy, have I been there before. It is so refreshing to hear things from a male point of view. So often here most women can only guess as to how the man feels. It is good to know that you all struggle with the same issues as us women as far as being afraid to lay everything on the line and say how you feel. I always say to never say never, and although she is M, it doesn't sound like she has forgotten about you either. My advice is to take a leap of faith and tell her everything you have told us in your posts (which are beautifully written, I may add). After all, you have nothing to lose. Go for it. No matter what happens, we will be here.
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Registered: 09-12-2003
In reply to: boston53
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 3:51pm
Boston,

I came across this board about a month ago and it has been a great source of comfort. It is unfortunate, however, to know that so many of us are are within arms length of happiness, of being with the one we truly love, but because of timing and/or circumstances our joy may never come to fruition.

You have the opportunity to reach out to the one you love and realize your dream of happiness. While there is the risk that your heart may be broken, it is worth the risk. How many times have we looked back and wished we had done or said something, would things be different. If for some reason, it doesn't work out, you will be free of the doubts and the "what ifs", you will know that you took advantage of the opportunity presented. Thirty minutes of elation are worth more than a lifetime of complacency.

I wish the best for you and hopefully the next time you feel the need to return to this board will be to relay your joyous reunion.

saatty

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Registered: 09-16-2003
In reply to: boston53
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 4:07pm
Boston53, are you ready to begin an EMA like your friend said "wasting your life waiting for something that might never happen" ? Can you go in knowing that nothing might come out of it at the end of it? If so, be ready for a emotional rollercoaster ride.

Its not always romance and roses, it can make you insane, LOL. You have to weigh in all the possibilities before you jump right in the A. Best of luck in whatever you decide.
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Registered: 07-27-2003
In reply to: boston53
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 9:22pm
Boston

WOW. So happy for you. But please be careful and consider what a rough ride you are in for if you go through with this EMA.

Also, tell her everything you have told us! It sounds like she needs to know just how much you love her.

It's so sad to see how easily we give out the wrong signals! All that time she loved you too! Good for you.

Please let us know what happens.

 

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Registered: 10-01-2003
In reply to: boston53
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 9:32pm
Boston's a great place :o)

I mainly lurk but I read your story and felt like I had to respond. You can tell that you are both in love with eachother and share that special bond that some people go their whole lives without finding, however you have to be careful. EMA's can be full of romance and all the rest of it, but full of pain as well. I am madly in love with my MM but the happier I get, the more pain that comes with it. I know he will never be mine. I am not the person he wakes up to every morning, and I never will be. It doesn't sound like your love is willing to leave her husband either. I know that right now it seems like you might be satisfied with just being an affair but at some point that won't be enough, and when you get to that point you won't want to break it off either becaue you love her so much.

If you really don't want to live your life without her then I say go for it, because having her in your life somewhat is better than not at all. I just wanted to warn you that it can be painful. Some days I am so happy I could burst and then other days I just want to stay in and cry. You need to decide if you are ready to deal with the highs and lows. Whatever you decide, I wish you the best of luck!

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Registered: 07-24-2003
In reply to: boston53
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 10:41am
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: boston53
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 11:40am
boston - i'm glad you emailed her and let her know how you feel. the ball's in her court now.

but please do make yourself happy, and remember, every situation, good or bad, has at least two sides to the story.

i really hope this relationship works out for BOTH of you!

good luck,

gurl

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