she's gone forever....

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Registered: 03-10-2009
she's gone forever....
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Tue, 03-10-2009 - 8:53pm
im a married guy, and just lost my AP after three months of NC. yes yes i know you will all say it is my fault. and you are right. but we loved each other so deeply and passionately and i was inching toward making the big decision. its just so hard with kids, im so afraid my kids will hate me.... so now, after three months, ive discovered that she is gone and with someone else and she isnt coming back or answering my emails. she waited for a year for me to make the move and i know i cant be angry at her but i am devastated and distraught... i think i made the biggest mistake of my life. question for single women out there with APs: if you were my AP, and had been hanging on for a year, and found someone recently to start fresh, without all the complications of an A, would you want me to disappear or would you want me to come out and make the move or to disappear forever? i dont want to mess up her life anymore but i cant live without her. or is this an opportunity for me to make a fresh start with my W, which will simply never never match up to

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Registered: 03-07-2009
Wed, 03-11-2009 - 10:37pm

Souleyes...


A year would be a long time to me to hang in there.

maystone
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Registered: 03-11-2009
Wed, 03-11-2009 - 10:57pm

I am currently a SW with a MM and it has almost been a year- and honestly one does get tired of waiting and waiting. And feeling as if you are second. I can be with anyone i want i am young but I keep waiting. Hoping.

Yeah I would agree though if you are serious then show her the divorce papers when you actually and if actually you go through with it.

Then if it was real what you guys had then you guys will be together if not then you will have her in your memory..life is too short to live unhappy and if she really does make you happy then go for it.

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Registered: 10-03-2008
Thu, 03-12-2009 - 9:49am

"be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"---Dr. Seuss

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Registered: 02-23-2004
Thu, 03-12-2009 - 11:52am
I'm glad I could help.

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