Should I be Mad?
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| Fri, 10-31-2008 - 6:21pm |
I am sure that most of you know me, and know that AP and I share a son together. Well as you all know today is Halloween, and my son is only 6 yrs old. This is a big deal for him.
Now my AP works a ridiculous amount of hours. This pay period he had 70 hrs of OT in addition to his normal 80 hrs. That's INSANE! So I know that he seldom gets a day off, but he was off today. I asked him if he would go trick or treatin' w/ me and our son, and he was like "No, I have a civic duty to stay here and hand out candy." I know he was trying to be cute, but I failed to find the humor in the whole thing.
My question is this: Should I be understanding that this is one of his rare days off, and just suck it up and let him rest, or should I be angry because he is passing up an opportunity to do the family thing? We have JUST started trying to do things as a family since he is leaving any day now, and I know my son would have been so happy if his dad had been there. I would appreciate any opinions that you guys would share.
Oh just a little side note. I got called into work to work a double, so I would have had to cancel if he had said yes, but he didn't know I was going to get called in. Thanks.

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I think that she is pissed knowing his motivation, but he has always been a very good provider, so she knows he is going to do whatever he has to for his son, and ultimately me.
She knows how much we love each other. He told me that when he and I weren't together, and he would come to get Seth he would ask her if she wanted to ride along w/ him, and she would tell him "No, you go ahead. I know how crazy you are about her, so you can go by yourself." That was when we were separated. I truly believe that she doesn't, and hasn't loved him for a long time. He says she hates him, but I doubt that. They have been in a sexless marriage for YEARS. Boy is he in for the shock of his life when we are living together! I am gonna wear that a** out! Sorry if that was TMI. lol.
As for the part about working so many hours and the county not liking it. Of course if it can be avoided it is, but you have to realize that WE never close, so there HAS to be a minimum amount of officers on duty at all times. One year when we had a bad snow storm I was on duty for 56 hrs straight. THAT was a rough day, or couple of days. Now that the weather is breaking it will slow down some because criminals don't like the cold.
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