Should I buy him a gift?

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Registered: 11-13-2003
Should I buy him a gift?
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Wed, 12-10-2003 - 5:24pm
I can't decide if I should get MM a gift for Christmas. My A started with him in Sept. and became intimate in Nov. We are in sales for the same company, and we work in different states. We only see each other about once a month. We are both M with no intentions of leaving our spouses. We are in this relationship for fun and sex. We have become very close through regular calls and e-mails but I don't know if we are close enough to be exchanging gifts, yet. Will he get me something? Should I ask him? Should I get him something anyway? I thought about mailing him a gift certificate for a few rounds of golf at a nearby resort. I just found out that we will not get to see each other before Christmas. We had planned a trip together for next week but it just won't work out for us. I am sad that we won't see each other before the holidays but, we do have a trip planned in early Jan. So, should I buy him a gift?
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Registered: 02-12-2002
Wed, 12-10-2003 - 6:05pm
I wouldn't, especially if your relationship is just for fun. It could make him uncomfortable because even though a gift should be freely given, most people will want to give one in return. My OM and I have been together for two years and have never given each other gifts, even though our relationship is much more serious than fun and sex (there are both - but so much more, too!).
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Registered: 10-17-2003
Wed, 12-10-2003 - 7:29pm
My MM and I are exchanging gifts...but we are much, much more then fun and sex...our relationship is a close to BF/GF as you can get with a W involved. We have been together intimately for a few months now but we have been friends for longer with the emotional affair before we ever became intimate...I was already planning on buying him one of the gifts I have for him before we became involved...after we became involved, I went out and bought a few more things...some he can take home and a few are just for us! :-)