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Should I Call
| Tue, 02-03-2004 - 5:59pm |
I've posted here before...My OM and I have known each other for 25+ years; affair on and off for 10 years. His W is terminally ill and we stopped seing each other about 3 years ago when she was diagnosed. Our R has been strained over the last year -- he feels very guilty talking to me or initiating contact with me. We exchange Christmas emails, but no other contact. For the past few days, we've been emailing back and forth and it seems so ridiculous that we don't just get on the phone. This seems so trite -- but I feel compelled to call him. I hate to call him at the office because he can never talk freely. I happen to know where he'll be this weekend -- but he doesn't know I know -- and he'll be alone and have his cell phone. Should I take the risk and call him then? Or should I just go back to the status quo and wait it out until he feels ready to call me?

If he wants space , why should he email you ?
Of course maybe he can sit at the computer and type at any time but he is not as free to talk over the phone ......but I am sure he can find a moment alone where he can talk for a bit on the phone ......like when he is driving in his car .Maybe you should email him and ask him to call when he has a moment alone . If he doesn't then why is email ok and a phone call not .
What is up with these men ??
xoxo ViperDiva
I emailed him about an issue I needed his legal advice on -- he's a lawyer. We've been emailing back and forth since Friday. I could have called him and he would have been fine with it -- uncomfortable probably like he was betraying his wife somehow. But, hearing my voice gets him re-involved, which makes him feel guilty, etc. Also, we have talked about a future together, which only complicates matters...
xoxo ViperDiva