Should I enter a PA?
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Should I enter a PA?
| Tue, 09-30-2008 - 2:29pm |
Hi,
I posted before. A quick recap is that I am definitely involved in an EA with someone who is contracted to both myself and H. I have 2 kids and been M close to 17yrs. I love my H and kids but I am also very drawn to the OM. He has expresses his feelings for me

You say that you love your
Oh millsb2008!
If you're already in an EA, then if you start a PA you won't be able to keep control on your emotions and you'll get attached. Can you fall in love with someone else and still love your H? Not many can. I certainly wasn't one of them. If you start this, then think of the consequences. I wish I'd found this board before I started my A. Not that it would have stopped me, but that I would have thought it through.
The consequences are huge. As another poster said, your AP is close to you and your H, so how are you going to hide your A? A glance, a look, a touch which H sees and you're caught. Can you cope with what happens if you are caught. Because it's likely for all of us, considering your close situation, it gets even more likely. Think ahead six months, a year or two and see what it looks like then, if your A continues, or stops, or one or both of you gets caught. Make your decision knowing you've thought it through.
Pisces
Hi Obxbell,
Thanks for the response and you're right. I realize I need to wake up. It just can't happen.
Mills,
You don't need to look far to have people tell you that what you are considering is a pretty awful idea.
I'll address a different issue - you will get over your feelings for him, if you want to.
Have you been pursued by anyone prior to this guy while you've been M?
Hi Obxbell,
I wouldn't say that I was 'pursued'. However, there have been a few men that have expressed interest. But that's as far as it went, I was never interested.
I also am not sure if I would say that I'm being pursued by the OM. Certainly he has expressed