should i or shouldn't i?

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Registered: 11-30-2011
should i or shouldn't i?
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Wed, 03-14-2012 - 9:30am

Ok so I think i already know the answer to my question but I just needed someone elses opinion.

Brief history:

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Registered: 04-15-2011
Wed, 03-14-2012 - 9:54am

I would say go for it

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Registered: 03-30-2010
Wed, 03-14-2012 - 10:13am

Hi Lily4carder,

I wouldn't contact him. Although you can send him a message privately you don't know if his significant other can log in and read his messages. Even if it's harmless and your just checking to see how he's doing you still will raise a red flag because you are not his friend on FB. I'd say leave it alone and if he wants to contact you, he will. When he returns to work you can take it from there but for now I would let it be and keep it moving.

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 11-30-2011
Wed, 03-14-2012 - 11:41am

I am such an idiot.

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Registered: 03-30-2010
Wed, 03-14-2012 - 11:54am
Don't be so hard on yourself. You did it because you wanted to know how he was and it was on impulse. There is nothing you can do about it now so just keep moving forward and don't contact him anymore. The ball is in his court now, so leave it at that. If he wants to reach you, he knows how & if he doesn't well move on to the next...
**Smile, try not to give this too much rental space in your mind***

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 04-15-2011
Wed, 03-14-2012 - 1:27pm

I wouldnt assume that your AP's W has facebook password or anything. Not everybody shares things like login info. My AP has his own PC , his W has her own . They dont share them and have them password protected so neither of them uses eachothers PC. They have this arrangement , it works for them . Anywho , it makes us email etc. quite easy .

I dont see any wronf in trying to contact your AP. You were concerned , you did . Not contacting would bother me especially if I wasnt well or something.

P.S .

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Registered: 03-30-2010
Wed, 03-14-2012 - 2:23pm
Inlovewith, If you read it correctly I stated " move on to the next" not "move on to the next one". I was referring to move on to the next phase of her life, not to another Ap. If she is single then why the heck not...

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 12-18-2008
Thu, 03-15-2012 - 7:57am

Slightly OT but you talk about FB etc and I have a rule - no FB with AP's. I don't trust FB. I'm pretty computer savvy (way more than H) but still, I think FB is sketchy with what it keeps and how access is done and so on. H is a cop and they have specialists who all they do is bust people going through computers and FB and so forth. I don't trust any of it especially FB.

Just my .02

-jana

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Registered: 11-30-2011
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 9:42am
Update: So after my lunch break yesterday when i was back at my work area there he was! I apologised for the fb msg - no biggy he didn't care i sent him one. Actually he hadn't even checked his fb before he came in - so he was not in at the store as a reaction to my msg.,,,he is returning to work next week but visited me until the hr person was available. Bliss. How coincidental is all this? - Although i should have just been patient and waited to see if he replied (which btw he did reply last night! :) ) I took a risk and was following my heart. I will not however initiate contact via fb again unless it is a reply to a msg from him.
The spark between is very much still there, more so - i guess absence makes the heart grow fonder? oh dear! lol
I am now at ease again.....thanks to all for your comments.
Purplerayne: i took what you said as to move on to the next phase.....thanks.
Also, it was a private msg - fb email - i didn't post on his wall or anything so it remains out of his friends' view.

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Registered: 03-30-2010
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 9:58am
Glad it worked out for you Lily = )

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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