should i say something

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Registered: 01-11-2004
should i say something
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Sun, 01-18-2004 - 4:05pm
I've been in a relationship for 8 years. For the last two years my boyfriend hasn't held a job and this has really put a lot of pressure on me because i now have to take care of everything. I felt like he is mooching off of me. So now to my story. In January of 2003 i started a new job, where nobody knew anything about me or my life or my long term relationship. Guys that have to something to offer to help me out instead of taking advantage of me like my man does. I have never had that much attention from the opposite sex and being that i am 21 year that has to say a lot. I thought it was fun playing around talking to different guys, just to see what the market was like. There was one guy in particular that I had no problems talking to about anything subject, including my current relationship. So the way I made this guy understand was that i would find him when i had time away from my boyfriend. We only met twice after that conversation, both times ending in great sex. This guy and I would never make it together and i knew that from start, so i just stopped calling him after he got fired from our job and haven't talked to him since. But that still leaves the question, it is now january of 2004 and my boyfriend still has no clue whatsoever. He still thinks I have been completely faithful. I honestly have no explaination as to why i cheated except those listed above if that's what they are. Should I tell him now even though it's been months since it happened?
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Registered: 12-28-2003
Sun, 01-18-2004 - 6:04pm
HI Gypsy

Telling your B/F at this time would seem to have little purpose unless it is your desire to hurt him are get rid of him.

I can see whay you would want to do the last but the first would just be cruel.

You are only 21 years old if I understand your post correctly, purhaps it is just a little to young for you to be in a committed relationship.

I know this may sound unkind to some but the B/F should go unless he starts to pull his weight your not his mother your his G/F.

It may be that you do not get much male attention because most men have enough respect for you not to think that you would cheat on him.

Women that get hooked up at a young age often have problems with Affairs 10-15 years later, in my opionion you should be enjoying your youth and getting that part of life out of your system before settleing down.

Good luck whatever you do

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