should i stop reading these boards??????
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should i stop reading these boards??????
| Wed, 09-17-2008 - 2:30am |
hi everyone, well i have just realised something about myself and i dont think i like it. Please be aware that i dont wish to offend anyone with what i want to say. This is a fantastic board, the women and men here are all so nice, and everyone is so helpfull. I know that the support, advice and often just simple ears to vent too that is on these boards has helped many, ive seen their are tears, laughs, humour, sorrow and many more emotions,

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Yes, I agree. I too am/was involved with a MM. we had 3 wonderful years, then I started reading the boards and started questioning. Do not get me wrong, they have helped also, but I think I went to far. We had agreed that are M were not worth staying, we were both leaving at some point. Just not for each other, but we would be there as friends for support. I left in feb. he was there for support, emotional and Financial. He was a best friend, he gave me the strength to do what had to be done.
I got lonely after while, he backed off some. Had some issues at home. I went to the boards for help and support. Yes, they helped some, but I also started questioning his actions, and comparing him to others. Now I am totally alone. He has not made contact in a week or more. We talked every day, we seen each other a few times a week, and now nothing.
It wasn't even a PA, it never really was, especially after I left H.
I'm still trying to figure out what happened, but I know a lot was the fact I went to the boards. We never argued, never fought. I left an abusive M of 14 years, so fighting is out of the question for me. But I asked questions, to many, I withdrew, I got depressed. I chased him away.
I know these boards are for support, and there are people out there that need it. But I would probably do better without. It didn't help me.
Keep up the good work!!! Others do need you!!
You need to take your R for what it is and not read into it from what others are going through.
One day at a time. This is such a dangerous game we all playing...Good luck to everyone, you're all like sisters to me.
I must agree with all you posters...it is verry true that this board is fantastic and offers support and anwsers to questions our APs find hard to express...but must admit to having questioned my AP more having been on this board....
Some jhas been good but some bad...but it has actually helped us rather a lot...
Just my thoughts..
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I feel that if you are here reading these boards then you must have something in your A that you're not sure of and hope that some here can shed some light into your situation. Otherwise, you wouldn't be here. I know that being in an A makes some of us insecure and most have questions they're afraid to ask their AP. We basically give the posters an idea of what could be going on base on their questions. If what you read doesn't apply to you then it doesn't apply. Everyone is different and each situation is dependent upon how you handle it and what your R with your AP is set-up to be.
But, if you are like a hypochondriac and adapts everything you hear or read to yourself or your situation, then this place may not be the right place for you and maybe you should stop reading these boards....
I 100% agree with Goddess.
MMM while true that support is the main purpose here I think that it should be
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