sigh

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Registered: 10-17-2007
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Fri, 03-26-2010 - 8:21am

AP and i did not talk today. He sent me a text that said..."struggling to find a new candidate, tired and pissy. Thinking of you, will call you tomorrow.

I send a nice one back and he signs off with another nice one. All good.

Wife's FB status says "...has the sweetest husband :) " posted at 6pm.

Ouch. Exactly what I deserve.

I hate her and I'm a lunatic. lol.

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Registered: 08-09-2009
In reply to: chechi2007
Fri, 03-26-2010 - 11:30am

Blech! Talk about taking one right in the kisser!

BTW youre not a lunatic just another OW that is seeing the other sides' perception of the M. I wonder how many Ws actually know or suspect that their DH have extra curricular activities. Im sure my APs W has no clue but she supposedly is a computer stalker so why cant she find his posts to me? Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm.....

((((Hugs)))) to you and hope your owies stop hurting soon.

SB

Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be.
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Registered: 08-02-2000
In reply to: chechi2007
Fri, 03-26-2010 - 12:03pm
It sounds quite typical and common, and is just proof that you don't know what goes on behind the scenes of his marriage. By her comment on FB, it sounds like he probably loves her. But her probably tells you something else. Nothing about affairs is honest, I'm afraid. Been there, done that.
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Registered: 12-29-2008
In reply to: chechi2007
Fri, 03-26-2010 - 7:21pm
ooohhh...yeah...thats why I don't check AP's wife FB. But since I never take my own advise I checked out his wife FB.lol Thankfully she is locked down pretty tight and I cant see her posts. Maybe you should just block his wife and then you wont have the to torture yourself.
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Registered: 08-11-2009
In reply to: chechi2007
Sat, 03-27-2010 - 12:18am
OMG!!
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Registered: 01-27-2010
In reply to: chechi2007
Sat, 03-27-2010 - 12:39pm

OMG, I check AP's wifes page far too often ... in fact since the 'almost dday' this morning i have been stalking it to see if she has said anything ... but there are constant posts about the kids and her having the best H .. even a post from him to her saying "I love you" ... He also has "happy family" status updates quite often ... It makes me nauseous sometimes to know that I'm the only one who knows about the A and that all is not as it appears ... He has always told me how much he loves his wife and family ... I haven't quite wrapped my head around why he's having an A with me if that is the case, but after today might not have anything to figure out ...

I ask myself why I am even involved in this if I know he is happy with is family and I can't answer that to myself ... anyone else????

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Registered: 05-17-2003
In reply to: chechi2007
Sat, 03-27-2010 - 1:13pm

Well, I've looked to see if AP's W has a FB page....and thank god she does not! I know I would lose it if I saw any sort of comments whatsoever about her life with him...I really would.

It was bad enough when he was showing me pictures of his last trip to visit with his family (his w did not go) and in amongst these pictures were a few of her in their garden. If I'm reading the dates correctly, he was taking pictures of her in the garden a week after we'd gone on our own week long road trip....I couldn't believe my eyes.

I don't like thinking of them together at all. It's common knowledge in this town that they don't have a "normal" R....or maybe living separate lives in the same space is normal around here, I just don't know anymore. I can't help but think that it's an awful waste, and why go through it? I wish I could figure out why it's acceptable to have a relationship that is completely devoid of anything, except perhaps obligation...again, an awful waste.

K, I'm off my soapbox now!

benska

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Registered: 02-14-2010
In reply to: chechi2007
Sun, 03-28-2010 - 9:43pm
AP’s W and I were friends on fb before the A started. AP sent me a friend request when he saw my name on his W’s friends list... that’s when the A started.
Only recently, H sent a friend request to AP (they’ve known each other well for years now)... AP asked me if it was ok to accept... hahaha... I reminded him that his W and I are already friends and asked him if I should block her. He said no and he accepted H’s request.
Now, me, H, AP & W are all each others’ friends in fb! How crazy is that??
I do check his W’s page once in a while – maybe the same reason the rest of you do too (self-inflict pain???). She’s got a photo where she wrote “my good and loving husband” ... If she only knew ...
My profile pic now? The roses that he gave me a couple of weeks ago!!! Most updates of my status actually have secret meanings only AP and I understand... he looks at my page every day (we have an LDA).
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Registered: 06-19-2009
In reply to: chechi2007
Sun, 03-28-2010 - 11:29pm
I used to check my XAP's LIGF's facebook all the time when I could view her wall.