Is this significant do you think?
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| Wed, 01-07-2009 - 12:04pm |
Hi everyone,
I've posted recently about how great my Christmas with AP/BF was this year (and I'm going to call him just my BF from now on as I am single and thus, not having an A). Anyway, it was the best holiday ever...he finally came right out and told me on Christmas Eve that he loves me! I was so happy and while we didn't discuss the future, I think we both know that we are in this for the long haul :) He has spent just about every day with me since then (other than Christmas Day of course, but even then he called and sent a text) and it's pretty much been a dream. I regret to admit that I fell of the wagon somewhat and lost it a bit when his (supposed) best friend told me he (BF) hated me. I was very distraught but BF was really wonderful in reassuring me of his feelings. I don't know why that man would say something like that to me (other than the fact that he has always hit on me and wants in my pants...yuk). I honestly don't know why my BF likes this guy so much...I mean would you stick with a GF who constantly hit on your BF?
On to my question: the last few times my BF and I have been together, he's been bringing his DS's into the conversation more and more, and the last time we were together he told me a "somewhat" unflattering story about his W...we have NEVER talked about his family and especially not his W. There probably is no real significance...I just wonder about it is all. His kids must know that they (BF & W) have no real relationship...I mean for heavens sakes...the guy is with me most of the time...not her. She also takes off for weeks at a time, all on her lonesome. I wouldn't be surprised if my BF has bumped into his kids coming home in the wee hours of the morning and I just wonder what they must think (the kids are all grown now too). I just find it all very strange.
So, do you think there is any significance in him starting to talk about his family? Or is it just something that naturally occurs when two people spend so much time together? He's also been telling me stories about his own family..Mom, Dad and siblings...which I quite enjoy. I think I just need to not analyze and go with my heart but I wanted to throw it out there and see if anyone has experienced the same thing and what, if anything, it might mean.
Thanks very much,
benska

Hi Benska -
Glad to hear that things seem to be settling into a good routine for you both - I am very happy to hear that your holidays went well.
I would say that him sharing more details of his life is both normal and encouraging - it shows a level of comfort with you - that he feels safe sharing - and also - as you move through things in any R - it's only normal to open up and share stories, history - all those things.