"Simple" Question...

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Registered: 08-22-2003
"Simple" Question...
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Tue, 09-09-2003 - 6:34pm
Why do we do this to ourselves? Follow your heart, life is short, you only live once, love is rare.... Why?
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Registered: 04-20-2003
Tue, 09-09-2003 - 8:46pm
My answer, if the good outweighs the bad in the long run, walk away. That applies to A's and M's.

I've weighed it out for myself for now. What he does for me. How he affects my life, and my attitude towards everything. How wonderful it is to love in a way I never thought I would. To be loved like that in return. How loving him and being loved by him makes my life better. I weigh the bad moments...the guilt, the paranoia, the wanting more...against those good things and for now, for me it's much more good. So I do not walk away. Will I ever? Probably. But maybe not.

CFH

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Registered: 09-04-2003
Tue, 09-09-2003 - 9:56pm
I don't really think we do this to ourselves, at least not on purpose. We are just following our hearts. Sometimes other parts of our bodies, but even then it can turn into something wonderful. I can't imagine spending the rest of my life with an ordianry, luke warm love. I want the seeing stars, mind blowing, extrodinary love. The kind they show in the movies. And I did find it. It's only or should I say it's downfall all though major, being m, isn't enough to stop this kind of love. It's just meant to be. If you know this or feel that strongly, then I have to say go for it. Life is much too short. It's all worth it in the end, if he/she is the one. I know it's suppose to be and is taboo, but I just can't think of that when he's looking at me with those eyes and that smile. My willpower dosen't excist with this man. And I know with out one ounce of doubt that he feels the same about me. That's why we do it or why I do it.
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Registered: 06-10-2003
Tue, 09-09-2003 - 11:57pm
Tis far better to have loved, and possibly lost, than to have never known love at all.

What you are encountering may be a once in a life time encounter. Enjoy it for what you can get out of it. Suffer for what you may suffer. But know that you have encoutered a feeling that you may never again feel in your life.

What you are going through, may be the sparkle in your eyes as you grow old and your grandchildren ask you if you have ever been in love.

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Registered: 08-24-2003
Wed, 09-10-2003 - 10:56am
Dreamer-WOW! You're answer is my answer. And the one after yours, too. I truly believe it was meant to be, even though our R is impossible-distance, marriages, he has a child still at home.... He referred to me in a high school reunion website, I happened to see it a month later, emails were exchanged, and within 6 weeks, we had met again and realized we loved each other-this after 38 years!!

Why do we do it? Because it won't be denied. Because we must.

Legs