Single or Married Man?

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Registered: 02-17-2004
Single or Married Man?
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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 7:05pm
Hi there, I'm new. I have a quick question, although I'm sure it won't be the only one....this seems like a nice forum for info. Soooo, would it be easier to have an A with a married man, one that isn't filled with guilt? Or a single guy, with his own appartment....like this one I had just gone out with.

Thanks!




Edited 3/2/2004 3:00:03 PM ET by jazzyvirgo

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Tue, 02-17-2004 - 7:28pm

Hi Jazzy and welcome,


I have to say... men! they are just funny creatures.

Sweet
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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 8:56am
Hi Sweet, thanks for your reply and welcome. I read a bit more of the board last night, and something occured to me. I shouldn't go out looking for an A. It should just happen. Be it a SM or a MM. I suppose an "experience" could just be a ONS (one night stand, is that part of those letter combination? lol). I just don't know if I'm ONS material though. Sex with the H is uneventful, and has been for over 10 years.....which is why I get feeling a little nutso at times. But I'll wait for something that feels right.

Thanks again. :)

Jazzy

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 1:33pm
My OM is single. It doesn't matter even if we are not on level playing field like sweet said in her post. I get a differnt set of problems with it - and those are the ones I can definitely deal with in my mind. I however couldn't go on if he had a live-in g/f or was engaged to be married.
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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 2:29pm
The SM I went out with isn't seeing anyone right now....so he says. And has invited me over to get naughty with him. But a few days after we went out, he took another married lady out to talk to her about her situation. She was claiming she'd leave her family to be with him, which freaked him out....however, I was claiming I just wanted some fun. While I do just want some free and easy sex with him, it needs to feel a little unique and special, no? I'm trying real hard to not read into things, and just enjoy myself.....but it can't feel cheap either. He has told me to come on over, and I'm sure I could get what I wanted, sexually from him, but how will I feel after that? I'm guessing a little bad? But then, really, you don't want yourself *too* involved, because that's when feelings start happening. Ugh. Maybe I'll just stick with my toys for now. ;)
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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 8:05pm
Jazzy,

I know for a fact that my OM is not seeing anyone right now. As far the emotions, it too late I am already in love with this man. Love is the only reason I am in the A - everything else is extra benefit, including sex.

Juliet