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Thu, 07-10-2003 - 11:15pm
Does MM tell you he doesn't have sex with his W? Do you believe him?

Just curious.

Hope

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Thu, 07-10-2003 - 11:23pm
What does your MM tell you, Hope?
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Thu, 07-10-2003 - 11:59pm
Well, in my sit. nobody is married. But

OM and his gf rarely have sex, if they have

it at all. He and I don't discuss those things

too much, nor in any sort of detail. It's never

been anything that I've been "worried" about b/c

I know for over a yr. now their sex life has been

close to non-existent (via her complaining all

that time about how she doesn't know why he doesn't

want to, how much effort she puts into trying to

"create the moode", etc). I'm not naive though, I

know that they have to be having sex at some pt or

another. How often, I've no idea. Do I really care?

Not so much b/c like I said, it's a rare occurance

for them at this pt in time. Anytime they are intimate,

it's not like he rushes out to send me the notice or

I am constantly asking him. We don't discuss it. He

knows I don't want to hear it. He knows it'd make me

feel bad. Just as he wants to know if I'm starting to

date other ppl, but does not want to know if I've kissed

any of them anymore b/c he says it hurts too much to

hear about it.
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Fri, 07-11-2003 - 12:03am
Yogachick, he tells me the same thing your 'EMOTIONAL AFFAIR PARTNER TELLS YOU.

Hope

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Fri, 07-11-2003 - 12:38am
Hi Hope4!

I'm not (yet) single, so your post doesn't apply to me.

I wanted to say hi, though. I'd thought about putting an APB out for you in case you were lurking - but thought perhaps you left the board as I remember you felt you didn't "fit". Share an update if you feel comfortable.

I hope all is well with you!

Meow

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Registered: 07-09-2003
Fri, 07-11-2003 - 7:51am
Funny you should ask that cause that just happened the other night. I know that they sleep together but he told me when he was drunk that he only sleeps w/2 women, myself and his wife. It's different when I hear it come out of his mouth...kinda stings. But I know they do. And it is hard..
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Fri, 07-11-2003 - 8:34am
Hmmm.... MM doesn't tell me one way or another. Although I know they do, as they have 2 children, one is only a few months old. Right after he and I slept together the first time, MM starting geeking out about getting tested for STDs and that he wouldn't "make love to his wife until the tests came back..."

Even though I know he does "make love" to her, it doesn't seem to phase me, as 1) I knew coming into it that she was the one he goes home to each night, and 2) I don't know her, I've never even seen a picture. I don't really care to particularly, but the curiosity is definitely there.

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Fri, 07-11-2003 - 8:37am
You mean, he tells you that he has a regular sex life with his wife, but he is not fully happy with the relationship as a whole?

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Fri, 07-11-2003 - 9:06am
My guy tells me that it just "isn't there" for him and his GF anymore and that they rarely have sex and when they do, he never initiates it - if it weren't for their child he would be out of that relationship. I don't know if I believe that all the time but that's what he tells me so....but the hard thing is I know his GF, we used to be acquaintances but I haven't talked to her in years. She is friends with one of my friends and they hang out sometimes and our mutual friend will tell me things that she says and sometimes she talks about sex with my guy and that is like a slap in the face. Many of the things she tells my friends are the complete opposite of what my guy tells me so sadly, I don't know if what he tells me is the truth or if he just says those types of things to make me feel better. Whenever I confront him he tells me that she exaggerates their relationship and makes it seem better then it is because she doesn't want anyone to know that they're having problems. Oh well, what can I do? I love him and I just saw him last night so I'm on Cloud 9 and a little more positive about it then usual! LOL
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Fri, 07-11-2003 - 10:07am
Whatever you want to believe! Ignorance is bliss, they say....
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Fri, 07-11-2003 - 10:09am
Well... in the beginning he said he "never" had sex with her. But it was an exageration and I new they did, just not so often. But then for probably like seven/eight months nothing about there sex life came up, I did NOT want to know, and then like a week ago, he said "oh we have sex about once a week" how it came up in conversation, i don't know... but I still didn't want to know... thanks buddy!

It's funny though, me and MM haven't had sex for like 5 months!! I don't understand this. We do everything else other than sex, but he won't have sex with me, and I don't want to ask. We kiss A LOT lately, which for me is much more meaningful than sex with him. But still I don't understand the lack of sex lately...

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