Sleeping with the enemy?!
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| Sat, 03-27-2004 - 12:17am |
Am I a terrible person for sleeping with the enemy? Although she no longer has feelings for him anymore I am sure, it still feels so wrong. She can never find out and I am afraid in the case that anything ever comes out that when confronted I might have no choice but to lie.
What sucks so much about my situation is that this guy isn't so wonderful. I can have anybody else if I really wanted to, but we have so much fun together and wonderful sex! Do I end this now and lose the risk of a friendship coming to a horrible end, or do I continue to sneak around and have a great time with him (with a conscience)?? The answer is obviously staring me in the face but I can't seem to make the right decision here. Bad karma is certainly coming my way! Any help is always appreciated!!
Thankyou

I'm guessing he was "not so wonderful" to your friend. How close is your friendship? What did he do to your friend? You might want to put things on "hold" with this guy (unless he is Mr.Wonderful!) and ask your friend in a round-about manner questions to see how she really feels about him. I mean how serious were they? Just because things didn't work out for your friend doesn't mean they wont work out for you. If you want to continue seeing this guy and keep your friendship-you should at least tell her you're going to go out with him..because she probably will find out eventually-unless you wear disguises!!!
I have to question why you say you say he isn't so wonderful in one statement and then say how much fun you have together in the next. There is obviously something that is attracting you... You should figure out what you want with this man and get your own feelings straight before talking with your friend.
Bring the topic around to her gently to get a feel for how she will react. Talk about your feelings and ask her about hers. The unfortunate truth is that while men tend to come and go, true friends are forever. I am not saying walk away from him, but don't try to hide him either. Your friend will be hurt much more if you proceed behind her back.
For what it is worth, I hope this helps.....