SM -vs- MM
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SM -vs- MM
| Thu, 12-11-2008 - 9:31am |
Honestly, I have tried in my search for a single man but I always end up with a MM. I've searched deep within myself to see if this is something within myself and it was to begin with just because I felt more comfortable if he was M. A single man is use to the whole dating scene and it's all new to a MM just like it is with me. So, I've made it a point to focus now on somebody single but not many will even give me a chance! Is it because I'm a MW or maybe my personality? I want somebody single because I plan to end my M and things become too complicated with a MM. This new relationship started off so incredible! He seemed to worship the ground I walk on but I'm getting my head out of the clouds and coming back to reality...he's M. He's telling me for us to give it a chance and see where it goes and if nothing else a great friendship can come out of it. They all see to be MM and they all seem to be younger...and keep getting younger and younger.

If you are a MW and planning to leave your husband, do that first! No man, single or married is going to even consider a *real* relationship with you on the grounds that you 'will be' leaving your husband. Its like you are testing the waters to find something better and then you'll jump ship. That is not fair to your husband! The AP to be will not think highly of your plan either I'm sure.
Think of it this way. Why would a single man want to date you knowing you're married? Unless they are head over heals for you, they realize you are likely not leaving your husband so they are wasting their time. A MM may be more interested in you because you are 'safe'. You are married, so is he. That's likely why the MM are 'easier' to find.
The part about your story that bothers me is that you are out pursuing a relationship while married. AP happen for different reasons, but the fact that you are out pursuing one is setting you up for disaster. If you are planning on leaving your husband, do it. Then, when you go out to date you are open to many more possible relationships. The 'right' guy may be out there, but not willing to enter a relationship with you with a 10ft. pole because you are a MW.
Let your husband be with someone who truly loves him.