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Registered: 09-21-2007
smh
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Mon, 05-20-2013 - 1:49pm

Yup, AP totally missed my bday.  And nothing all weekend.  Actually nothing since last Friday when we discussed my bday.  (((sigh)))  I shouldn't expect much anyways.

 

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Registered: 03-02-2002
In reply to: lostbutnotfound
Thu, 06-06-2013 - 1:07am

Obviously you know this guy isn't worth one hot second of your time.  Only question is now,finding a new one who is!

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Registered: 09-21-2007
In reply to: lostbutnotfound
Tue, 06-04-2013 - 1:27pm

He isn't exactly empty handed, but I haven't seen or heard from him, so that is now debatable.

He knew it was coming up, because he made sure to let me know he had plans that day.

I need to let this guy go!!!  Over 6 years and treats me lousy!!! 

 

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Registered: 09-21-2007
In reply to: lostbutnotfound
Tue, 06-04-2013 - 1:24pm

He says he has a gift, but still no bday wishes and I said something this weekend.  No response = he doesn't care!  This is no revelation to me.

 

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Registered: 06-03-2013
In reply to: lostbutnotfound
Mon, 06-03-2013 - 3:06am

I have learned that if I want my bday recognized (or any other speacial date), I must take matters into my own hands.  I remind my husband several times that week of the date and I also say exactly what I am hoping for (ie flowers, mushy card, or whatever...jewelry, etc). That way expectations are clear, and he doesnt have to get all nervous about getting me the right thing.  If you think thats being pushy, give him several options that are financially suitable.  IF HOWEVER, he still "forgets" or comes up empty-handed, then he isn't worth one more ounce of your precious time.  God Bless.

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Registered: 04-28-2011
In reply to: cocomama21
Sat, 05-25-2013 - 9:24pm

didn't you say he had a gift??? that is not forgetting he may not have been able to get to you yet, I don't know maybe I'm misunderstanding. I hope you get to talk to him.

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Registered: 09-21-2007
In reply to: lostbutnotfound
Tue, 05-21-2013 - 10:40am

You are absolutely correct!  I even thought, wow, I am not that important.  I am not making excuses.  At this point, we are in Ignoreville and have been for over a week.  I was upset that he didn't say anything.  I thought about it, and I am not going to make a big deal out of it.  What would that accomplish?  I have decided that next time he wants me to come over, I will not be available.  I have my dignity and self respect, and that carries me on.  I don't need a man who treats me like crap and I do share so much with.  He is not my husband nor my boyfriend.  I wouldn't take this from anyone else...he is not THAT special!!

 

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Registered: 04-23-2007
In reply to: lostbutnotfound
Tue, 05-21-2013 - 10:09am
When you accept so little from a man you get less. If you were really on his top list of priorities he wouldn't forget your special day. Stop making excuses from him. Don't you want a man in your life who remembers your bd? If not, why do you think you deserve so little from the man you share so much with?
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Registered: 09-21-2007
In reply to: lostbutnotfound
Tue, 05-21-2013 - 9:49am

I did remind him, because I wanted to spend time with him and he had plans.  He also has a gift.  At this point, it is what it is. 

 

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Registered: 04-28-2011
In reply to: lostbutnotfound
Mon, 05-20-2013 - 10:03pm

don't feel bad some men just aren't for dates. remembering them anyway. i think I tell my AP my b-day every year. Nevermind it's in another week. You would think after all this time he would remember but he usually doesn't. I'm sure I will be reminding him this year too. LOL