I can't address why you're in this affair or taking the risks you are but I might have an idea of why your AP is. Perhaps he sees you as 'safe' - you don't want or hold out the hope of something truly committed and permanent and that suits him right now.
I asked a separated friend why he persued married women instead of a single lady and he said that he hated the pressure he felt from the single women to get involved in something committed; no matter how much they said they weren't looking for marriage they always got around to making it clear that's what they wanted and he would run a mile at that point.
If you don't want to hurt your husband, then if I were you I would seperate from him before he finds out what you are up to!
What a horrible thing for him to find out - it would be better to say to him that you just don't have the same feelings for him anymore.
I'm not trying to be all holey
I can't address why you're in this affair or taking the risks you are but I might have an idea of why your AP is. Perhaps he sees you as 'safe' - you don't want or hold out the hope of something truly committed and permanent and that suits him right now.
I asked a separated friend why he persued married women instead of a single lady and he said that he hated the pressure he felt from the single women to get involved in something committed; no matter how much they said they weren't looking for marriage they always got around to making it clear that's what they wanted and he would run a mile at that point.
Unwrittened I think you are dead on.