So heartbroken and hurting...

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2003
So heartbroken and hurting...
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Thu, 08-19-2010 - 11:08am

Hi everyone,


I am a MW and I am deeply and madly in love with a MM.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2010
Thu, 08-19-2010 - 11:18am

Hi Mumofkid,


I won't tell you what to do but just want to throw some things at you to keep in mind.

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2003
Thu, 08-19-2010 - 1:37pm
I know that grass is greener on the other side. What I have a hard time with is this. Everytime I run into him or see him at various places, I feel that he has not forgotten me and I have not forgotten him and I have an emotional meltdown.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2009
Thu, 08-19-2010 - 4:02pm

Mum - I am sorry for the pain you are feeling.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2010
Thu, 08-19-2010 - 6:05pm

Obsessing and hurt..........yep, typical affair.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2010
Thu, 08-19-2010 - 6:13pm

I have been in your shoes before, and it is intense.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-29-2010
Thu, 08-19-2010 - 7:58pm

I have to agree with justlivin' on this. It seems like your feelings are out of whack for a co-working relationship that never had more then a little flirting to it. You may have built up a fantasy in your head about what he feels. Thinking that the love messages he writes on his facebook wall are for you, when he's never hinted that he has feelings for you, (and you're not an official fb friend of his) seems like a fantasy too.

I worry for you sweetie. I worry about how you will feel if you seek him out and find out that it was all a one sided fantasy on your part. Please try to prepare yourself for that possibility.

As Rayne said, make sure you're prepared for all the possible outcomes if you contact him. And if you find out that he doesn't return your feelings, try to prepare yourself to completely let him go.

Keep us updated!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-02-2010
Fri, 08-20-2010 - 7:55pm
exactly
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2003
Sat, 08-21-2010 - 11:18pm

Thank you for all your responses.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2010
Sun, 08-22-2010 - 5:14am
excellent choice on the not contacting him idea, just excellent!! it seems like u might have been just really disappointed at stuff not going the way u had planned while the two of u worked together. that sort of disappointment is truly hearbreaking especially if u felt like you were embarking upon an emotional affair, b/c it appears as if u two never had any private time or had even touched each other yet... so with that in mind.... leave him alone. he is not in your circle of life. FB makes stuff sooooo much harder and u will have to wean yourself of the habit u have or reading his posts, etc.... but just stop. it might have been flirting and long strong gazes at each other, but now he doesn't work there any more and it is done. i truly believe if he wanted you, as a man, he would find you. just hang in there. i will say frankly, u sound a bit desperate for some positive attention, tho. with that in
when one does not love too much, one does not love enough --blaise pascal
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-02-2010
Sun, 08-22-2010 - 1:42pm

...it hurts to be in love with someone who is not available to you and you are not available to them.....
who says if you are not available to him right now you can't make yourself available to him in future too ? If you feel so strongly for him you better follow your heart rather than keep longing for him .
Best of luck