So, how do we make sure we don't get caught?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-13-2001
So, how do we make sure we don't get caught?
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Wed, 11-21-2012 - 11:37am

In recent light of the head of the CIA, and yes some of the things that took place were possibly illegal, I still wonder how it is possible that we don't get caught?

I've been in my A almost 2 years.  I have gotten sort of D days, but not really.  However, my biggest concern is keeping my professional life protected.

What do you all do to keep yourself, your AP and families protected.

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010
Wed, 11-21-2012 - 2:34pm

  There are many was to not leave a trail.  The best if you use a computer is to set it to erase your activity after every browser use.  If using a cell do the same and turn off any tracking.  (some newer cell phones track you)  Also have it erase any usage including texts. I am sure there are articles on privacy to read.

dragowoman

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-05-2006
Wed, 11-21-2012 - 3:13pm
I'm pretty sure there are books out there to this effect that should cover all the bases.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-17-2010
Wed, 11-21-2012 - 10:19pm

best advice is to never leave a trail. delete texts and emails. best to use as little technology as possible. Don't be FB friends, either. Plan out everything and respect each other's space. Don't call AP at times he or she is with their spouse.

Some people lock their phones as well.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-17-2010
Wed, 11-21-2012 - 10:19pm

best advice is to never leave a trail. delete texts and emails. best to use as little technology as possible. Don't be FB friends, either. Plan out everything and respect each other's space. Don't call AP at times he or she is with their spouse.

Some people lock their phones as well.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Thu, 11-22-2012 - 7:12pm

Check out the Tor Project, which is a software to hide the trail of your emails/internet search, etc.  (Just google it).  Also, don't share your stories here because sooner or later people might recognize the people and events your desctribe, even you don't mention names, and suspect it were you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-2010
Mon, 11-26-2012 - 7:08pm

Well my AP just got caught last week...not sure how because I have not heard from him but I do know it was from emails.  His wife found emails not only from me but from at least 20 different girls and the conversations were all there.  I am assuming (we all know how that goes lol)  that he did not delete the emails or log out of the email on his phone because that is where she found it.  For me, I have an email account set up just for AP, don't keep it logged in on my phone and delete, delete, delete, delete.  I do not do much from my home computer, we were not FB friends, and was careful on how I used my time getting out to see him.  I never wore perfume or smelly stuff and neither did he so that it would not end up on my clothes when we were together.  I tried to keep my "alibi" close to where I was so if something happend, I was where I was supposed to be or close to it.  For me, we did most by text because it just showed number of texts not actual words.  In order to get the texts, it would take a supeona for my carrier to release them.  I am on my phone alot due to having a big family and am always talking to them, work or friends but was still careful not to text around H.  I am in a high profile profession as well so just made sure to be EXTREMELY discreet..meeting at hotels we usually put under his name so that I did not have to show mine.