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| Mon, 01-04-2010 - 5:44pm |
I started going through a mid-life crisis at the end of October (I will spare u all of the details or this will go on and on). I realized i was not happy with my life and my husband. We have been together for almost 10 years, since I was 19. Married at 23 and had a child two years ago.
ANYWAYS, I started talking to an ex. Someone I haven't dated since I was 18 but we have had casual communication over the last 10 years. Well, we started just flirting, etc, strictly an online relationship since we live in different states right now back in November. We are from the same hometown though and I went and saw him while I was home for an occasion and he happened to be home as well. We hung out for 6 hours, and it was amazing.
Since then it has escalated. He has expressed some really strong feelings for me. He even wants to move to where I am if things continue and my relationship ends.
I am so confused. I am unhappy with my husband but I want to make the decision to stay or go based on how I feel, not based on how I feel about this other guy. But I cannot bring myself to not talk to him to give me space to think straight. He calls me most days and this morning I missed his call (he's in a "situation" that I cannot call him back) and I was crushed, I almost cried because I couldn't speak with him. He is single by the way.
This other guy makes me soooo happy and he compliments me and tells me I am amazing and beautiful, etc. All the things my husband never does and we have even spoken about it. But my husband isn't a bad person or even a bad husband to me, just I think we want to live different lives. And we have sooo much in common and I am extremely attracted to this other guy.
UGH, what is wrong with me, what am I doing? I can't stop thinking about this other person.

If you're still talking to the other guy, then can you truly make an objective decision with regard to your marriage? Do you want to take things to the next level with this other guy while you're still married?
Some food for thought:
Should I leave my husband for Mr. Perfect?
Is this a dangerous crush?
Should I cheat on my husband?
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