so sad......

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so sad......
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Sat, 04-18-2009 - 1:48am
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Sat, 04-18-2009 - 6:04pm

But, what is the background on the relationship with this "man" that shattered your heart?


Did you have a one night stand? Have you been emotionally involved with this man? Do you work together? Are either of you involved in other relationships? How old are you all?


I'm sorry but when I read your original post, I see it coming from a younger girl, perhaps very younger; "So earlier today I mentioned to him that my best friend was coming over later to get drunk and he said that that would be lots of fun."


Chances are, you were just a booty call...perhaps you need to talk to this guy and figure out what happened? Or, and I see it as the better avenue to take, ignore him. He is not worth your time anyhow.


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Sat, 04-18-2009 - 10:28pm

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Sat, 04-18-2009 - 11:52pm

i_dont,


I would wash your hands of this "player". That's what he is and what he is doing to you. Just walk away and find someone who is free to be yours, appreciates you, and wants to be with you. This guy is NOT worth the heartache you are already suffering from.

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Sun, 04-19-2009 - 4:00pm

"Oh also he is separated from his wife he was coerced into marrying (the whole if you ever want to see your kid again thing)."

Don't believe this line! She can't keep him from seeing his kid. There are judges and laws that say differently. He just told you this to garner sympathy and help along your being willing to participate in an affair with him.

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Sun, 04-19-2009 - 10:56pm

I think at this point there is no "affair" to speak of seeing as there apparently is no other time we are going to get together. I think that if you ask a person 2 different times if they want to hang out with no pressure and they have a no out instantly with 8 excuses trailing behind then it's not anything.


Although if I ignore him he amps up the attention. Maybe I ended the chase with sleeping with him the first time we hung out. Either that or the fact that we didn't really hit it off in the kissing department (we couldn't synch up but in our defense we were pretty tired and a little tipsy at least I was) Who really knows what he thinks or not... just the fact that I feel kinda stupid....