So sad and confused.

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So sad and confused.
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Fri, 08-06-2010 - 9:25pm

I've been married for 3 years. We have a 2 year old son. My husband is a good man, but I feel that our candle has burned out. I've tried talking to him about it. He'll listen, agree, but do nothing about it. He has never taken me out on a date that he has planned out himself. Every time he was to get intimate he'll grab my butt, or just tell me he wants some. I've told him how I hate his approaches to intimacy, but nothing changes. So lately I've been going out with my girlfriends making plans without him. A week ago,

 

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Fri, 08-06-2010 - 10:09pm
My initial gut instinct says BE CAREFUL. Are you ready to risk everything for a
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Registered: 07-03-2006
Fri, 08-06-2010 - 10:58pm
Thanks for the advice. You're definitely right! I need to step back and really think about this. I guess I'm just very naive, and thought that there might be some real chemistry between us. I shouldn't put everything on the line for some dude that might just want to get into my pants, and only that.

 

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Sat, 08-07-2010 - 9:40pm
I agree with fwb! Read around here also, and see that in most cases an A is just filled with angst and pain. Some are steady, but most are clearly NOT. And in this case, even if you were both single, I'd tell you to slow down because you have no idea what this guy is like yet. Take care of yourself sweetie.

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Mon, 08-09-2010 - 8:22pm
What should you do? Run like your hair's on fire, that's what. You met this guy in a bar, under the influence of booze, and you are convinced you have some big connection. You're headed for trouble, and it's not too late to stop it. I guess what you really need to do is have a sit down with yourself and figure out why you're choosing to risk your marriage over a bar hook-up.
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Registered: 10-03-2009
Mon, 08-09-2010 - 8:34pm

Hello Pumpkin,


I agree with the posters.

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Registered: 08-30-2009
Mon, 08-09-2010 - 10:00pm
Oh sweet_pumkin! run run as fast as you can like the Gingerbread man.
It is so obvious that all this guy wants is to get in your pants. Nothing good can come of this sort of "relationship" Don't risk your marriage for this. Sounds like the guy is a playboy.
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Registered: 03-30-2010
Tue, 08-10-2010 - 4:40pm

Hi Sweet_pumpkin,


I know this is the MAS board but please think this through. I would advise you not to take it any further with this man you met in a bar. He's saying & doing all the right things that you want and need to hear. He's filling something that you have been missing for a while but its soooo not worth it. I've been in that situation. You can walk away now

 


Much peace & Love,


Rayne


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Registered: 07-03-2006
Fri, 08-13-2010 - 2:55pm

Thank you all for the great advice. So what has happened since the last post was, we went to the movies about 2 days ago. I was really excited to see him. I guess it's very true that I'm trying to feel the emotions with this person, that I'm no longer feeling at home. He started rubbing my leg again, holding my hand. He started to kiss me on my neck, then i told him, "Hey, we should take it easy, maybe we should just watch the movie." Well after that he was kind of dry towards me and messing with his phone. I thought to myself, what the heck I'm I doing here with this guy! Well afterwards we were